Sex bloggers and toy reviewers have weird (to the outside world) goals in life. Trying out all Sliquid lubricants and owning the whole range of Njoy stainless steel toys can often be seen on sex geeks’ bucket lists. So you might think that trying out all b-Vibe butt plugs was among my sex toy goals. Funnily, I wasn’t purposefully trying to achieve this, it happened just like that. I was really impressed with b-Vibe’s first two models and I purchased them right away, as they came out. I am a sex educator and blogger who’s really involved and close to the community, and I often attends professional events. I got my Rimming Plug in April, at a sexuality conference, and funnily enough b-Vibe was exhibiting again in August — at an entirely different sex-positive conference organized by the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Foundation. This time around they had just launched the Trio Plug.
I really like companies that are engaged in meeting toy reviewers, getting their feedback, who attend sexuality events, and have an actual physical presence. They’ve donated prizes for raffles that were raising funds for organizations, they run an anal sex expert advice blog on their website, and their marketing is really inclusive. Each of their products brings innovation to the table and they’re truly trying to normalize butt play and educate people on how to have pleasant enjoyable experiences. Needless to say, I had to get each of their products.
Anal pleasure, depression and I
One of the reasons I so passionately started reviewing anal toys and exploring more and more butt play in my partnered and solo sex, was because I was experiencing difficulties climaxing from genital play. I’ve been taking SSRIs, a class of antidepressants that’s highly effective and most commonly prescribed, but often makes people experience sexual side effects, some of which are: decreased libido, reduced sensation in the genitalia and anorgasmia. In other words, I couldn’t come the ways I would normally come before the pills – from vaginal intercourse and combined with clitoral vibration.
Anal sex and butt toys opened new doors to pleasure and different sensations for me, someone who thought knew their own sexuality and pleasure response. Anal play is now a really vital part of my sex life. And I wish more people gave it credit and acknowledged how strong and delightful pleasure from butt stuff can be.
When it comes to butt play and toys there’s a vicious circle. Often sex toy companies are trying to promote it and invite people to explore it, but there are rarely beginners’ friendly anal toys. That only reinforces the myth that anal play is only for hard-core kinksters, men who have sex with men or some sort of advanced sex freaks. It reinforces the taboo and makes people think that this isn’t something for them. That it isn’t something that the average person could and should explore.
Enter b-Vibe Novice. Finally a premium brand that acknowledges that people have different needs and released a super newbie friendly high-quality anal plug.
What does Novice have to offer?
The Novice shares all of the b-Vibe previous selling points, such as: super soft and nice to touch body-safe seamless silicone. A rechargeable battery and a magnetic charger that actually holds onto the toy really tight and never stops charging it, a battery life of at least an hours of play on maximum speed. Not to forget the key feature of the plug — a remote control, which works up to 30 ft away! Did I mention the cool storage case, that looks super swanky and hi-tech?The Novice plug has 6 vibration levels and 15 vibration patters, which can be controlled independently with the help of the remote. This makes the plug really versatile and allows it to bring novelty to your butt play even if you get used to its size. The remote makes things just easy. Instead of having to reach back, and try to figure out buttons, you can be focused on the sensation and browse through the speeds and patterns. But it also makes a great tool for power play and public play. If you like (or have fantasized about) going out while wearing a vibrating vaginal egg, but you’ve always wanted to try that same thing with a plug too, the Novice is your best pick.
The Novice is just really comfortable to wear and use for longer periods. It has a flexible neck and a really small base (significantly smaller than the base of the Trio plug). It only holds one motor, but it’s very strong and quiet for the size of the toy. When placed inside, the Novice is practically silent.
So how beginner friendly is it?
The Novice has a diameter of 1″ or 2.5 cm, and has an insertable portion of 3″. So far I’ve used the plug on two partners, one penis-owner, and one vagina-owner, both of which were complete newbies to anal play. While one has only had a finger in their ass once, the other hasn’t had any sort of anal penetration, even with a pinkie. And I can happily report that taking things slow, turning them on, using enough longer-lasting water-based lube, such as Sutil or Sliquid Sassy, worked like magic. They could take the entire plug and actually really enjoy it, completely pain free. You are absolutely encouraged to take your time and just take portions of the plug the first several times.
How are the three models different?
The line now consists of a small, medium and large plugs. And each of them has something different to offer. The Novice has one motor, but features 6 speeds and 15 patters. The Trio has three motors with 8 speeds and 9 patters. And the Rimming plug has one vibrating motor and one rotating one — the beads in the neck, with 6 speeds and 6 patterns.
Tips for beginners anal play
Here are a couple of basic recommendations to follow and keep in mind when exploring butt play for the first time. You should always have plenty of time and not rush through it. Block off good two hours for the first time you want to do any backdoor experiments. Get yourself a good glycerin-free water based lube. Use plenty of it during the session. Start with things that you normally like and get sufficiently turned-on by. Maybe even have one orgasm before taking anything inside of your ass (especially good advice for vulva-owners). Breathe slowly and relax completely. Start with a massage on the butt cheeks and around the butt-hole. Then by pointing the butt plug with 45 degrees angle – facing slightly upwards or downwards, not completely straight into the anus, start slowly inserting the well-lubricated tip of the plug while inhaling. You can turn on the vibration if that feels good, or just use it without any vibration for the first couple of time, if you just want to relax and enjoy the penetration. Often combining the insertion of the plug with genital play can make things much more easy, but you can always add that after the plug is completely inserted.
Once the plug is inside, let it stay put (unless it’s really uncomfortable and you want to take it out right away). Continue playing and enjoying other things. You can have vaginal intercourse while wearing the plug, you can give and/or receive oral sex, or you can simply place a vibe on your clit, balls, genitalia. Always wear the plug for short periods of time for the first couple of times, and build up to longer and longer wear.
When you remove the plug, take things as slowly as you did when you put the plug inside. Exhale deeply and loudly as you remove it, this will relax the muscles in a way that will make the removal of the plug much easier and more comfortable.
Where to get it
The Novice plug has just been released by b-Vibe and right now you can only order it from their website in black or fuchsia. The Novice will hit the stores in Jan most likely and you will be able to find it at Good Vibrations, Babeland, The Pleasure Chest, Shevibe and other stores. It sells for $130. Which is a lot, but if you compare it with a good clitoral vibrator by a premium brand, it actually makes a lot of sense. The price is similar to these products and in exchange you get a travel case, a remote control and 1 year warranty.
My readers can get 20% off of the Novice from b-Vibe until Jan 1st. Discount applies only for the product, not the shipping. Use code WETLAND
Disclaimer: The Novice Plug was generously provided to me by b-Vibe in exchange for my honest review. My opinions and thoughts in this post reflect my experience with the product and are not altered in any way. I am using affiliate links in this post, which help me support this blog. By buying through them you’re giving me the opportunity to keep up the good work.