Gift-Giving Guide: What to Get Your Partner if They Have a Vulva?

Best Sex Toys for Women

These gift-giving guides are proving to be a really hard work. Duh! But I hope they’re a helpful resource and will guide you through the tricky times of BLACK FRIDAY SALES.

Welcome to Part 2 of this shopping recommendation bonanza. Today we’re going to talk about toys for those with vulvas. Whether you’re shopping for yourself, or you’re shopping for your girlfriend, mother, sister, or wife, I am going to do my best to help you budget your purchases, as well as figure out what might be the toy that best meets your needs. Sex toys are the best gift a girl can receive, but often partners are completely clueless what to pick. If you don’t want to receive a tacky jelly rabbit vibe, maybe you can accidentally on purpose send this article to your loved ones. I’ve tested most of these toys and I’ve consulted other reviewers who have first hand experiences with them. So let me sherpa your way to the instant (well, almost, unless you are buying from a brick and mortar store) gratification that sex toy shopping can be.

All of these categories start with the lowest price, but without putting your health at risk. An important thing to try to remember when shopping for sex toys: always avoid things that look suspiciously cheap. I’ve only included body-safe options in this list, but if you wanna do your own shopping, please stick to these materials.

If you missed part 1, Gift-Giving Guide: What to Get Your Partner if They Have a Penis?, you can always check it out here.

Clitoral Stimulators

Best Clitoral Toys

1. RO-80 Bullet Vibrator by Rocks-Off for $17.99 from Shevibe

2. Vibratex Water Dancer (pocket rocket vibe) for $19 from Peepshowtoys

3. Rocks Off Bamboo for $21.99 from Shevibe

4. Fun Factory LAYAspot for $49.00 from Peepshowtoys

5. Satisfyer Pro 2 for $59.99 from Peepshowtoys. This one is not a vibrator. It stimulates the clitoris with gentle suction and pulsation. Water-proof, rechargeable and multi-speed. Read my full review here.

6. Vesper Crave for $69 from Shevibe. This is a wearable necklace with a bullet vibrator as a charm. Powerful, pinpoint and stylish.

7. We-Vibe Tango for $79 from We-Vibe. Simply the best bullet vibe ever created.

8. We-Vibe Touch for $99 from We-Vibe.  This is a deep and rumbly less pinpoint version of the Tango. Much easier to hold in place, but as orgasmic!

9. Womanizer Pro40 for $99 from Peepshowtoys. The newest version of this toy is cheaper, waterproof and doesn’t look like a something Barbie bought  while on ecstasy.

10. Crave Duet for $149 from Good Vibrations. This one is a glorious powerhouse in a little pocket jewel.

G-Spot Vibrators

1. Slander G by Pleasure Works for $22 from Good Vibrations 
2. Callie Wand by Jopen for $54 from Peepshowtoys
3. Lovelife Cuddle for $69 from Peepshowtoys

4. Comet Wand II Key for $79 from Peepshowtoys. Find out why it brings so much joy to my g-spot. Get it before they discontinue it!
5. Swan Curve Squeeze for $89 from Peepshowtoys. Find out why I named it one of the best toys I’ve tried in 2016.
6. L’Amourose PRISM V for $99 from Peepshowtoys. Epiphora absolutely loved this g-spot vibe.
7. We-Vibe Rave for $119 from We-Vibe. If you only get to choose one toy of this whole guide, I’d say: get We-Vibe Rave. I haven’t published my review of it yet, and that’s because it always leaves me speechless.
8. Fun Factory Moody for $139.99 from Peepshowtoys
9. L’Amourose Rosa for $159 from Peepshowtoys

10. Lelo Mona 2 for $169 from Peepshowtoys

Harness compatible dildos

1. Godemiche Ambit Dildo for $34.99 from Shevibe2. Pleasure Works Bullseye for $38 from Good Vibrations3. Pride Rainbow G-Spot Silicone Dildo by BS for $74.99 from Shevibe

4. Tantus Echo for $75.77 from Tantus. This amazing creation has several coronal ridges. You know that awesome feeling when the head of the penis is in? Well, this is the whole shaft of Echo! Full review here.
5. The BJ Dildo for $78 from Good Vibrations. This dildo creates a pleasurable suction on the wearer’s clitoris, when sucked. If you are into all sorts of queer gender fuckery, this might be a dream come true.
6. Tantus Cush O2 dual density silicone dildo for $84.06 from Tantus
7. Tantus Slick Large dual density silicone dildo for $89 from Tantus
8. Fun Factory Bouncer for $99 from Good Vibrations.  This dildo has bouncing balls inside of it that move as you thrust. Pretty cool, huh?
9. VixSkin Mustang dual density silicone dildo for $99.99 from Shevibe in skin colors or bright multicolor

10. FunFactory Share for $106 from Good Vibrations. This is a great double ended dildo with a bulbous part to be worn internally by the one topping for equal pleasure. It can be used for masturbation too, since grabbing it by the shaft actually makes it really easy to maneuver. You can only use it with harnesses that are compatible with double ended dildos, such as Joque by SpareParts.

Handheld Dildos

1. Lovehoney Double Ended Textured Sensual Glass for $29.99 from Lovehoney
2. Lelo Ella for $53.99 from Peepshowtoys of from Shevibe. This little object has helped countless number of people to find their g-spot and squirt for the first time. It’s unfortunately being discontinued, so hurry and get it while you can!
3. Tantus G-Force for $69.97 from Tantus. The genius design of this dildo with handle allows you to thrust more easily without having your hands get tired of holding it.
4. Crowned Jewels Shaftsbury Aluminum C Curve Dildo for $69.99 from Shevibe. This creation is made by a British company that specializes in unique metal sex toys.
5. Njoy Pure Wand for $110 from Peepshowtoys. This toy is no joke. It’s going to last you a lifetime, since it’s virtually unbreakable, and it’s going to give you the most amazing g-spot orgasms, and maybe even teach you squirt!
6. Laid D.2 Stone Dildo for $110.99 from Shevibe. This granite dildo has a similar shape to the We-Vibe Rave, since Laid is currently a sister brand of We-Vibe. The same fabulous g-spot stimulation, with more weight for better pressure and temperature play.
7. Fucking Sculptures G-Spoon Glass Dildo for $129.99 from Shevibe. This is a hand-made glass dildo that as the name suggests is as beautiful as a piece of art. It’s as useful as it is pretty.
8. NobEssence Seduction for $145 from Peepshowtoys. We continue with the beautiful pieces of art: this is a 100% wooden dildo with a prominent g-spot curve.
9. Chakrubs Thick Chakrub starting at $150 from Chakrubs. These dildos are made by different crystals that correspond to each chakra. They’re healing in Buddhism, and help you achieve better health and inner peace, but the thick round shapes of these dildos are quite pleasurable as well. Read my review of the Rabbit Jade Chakrub.

10. Chakrubs Rose Wand for $189.95 from Chakrubs. This dildo is made by Rose Quartz and has a prominent g-spot bulb at the end.

Wand Vibrators

1. Shibari Halo Wand for $54.99 from Shevibe. This one is rechargeable, water-proof and body safe. What else can one need from a wand? Only downside is that the Magic Wand attachments won’t fit on this one.
2. BMS PalmPower Wand Massager for $69 from Peepshowtoys. Another body-safe option with a removable silicone head. It even has a rechargeable version for the same price! You can purchase additional attachments for this one, but your Magic Wand attachments won’t fit.
3. Jimmyjane Iconic Wand for $74.99 form Shevibe. This multi-speed, waterproof rechargeable wand is a top pick of many. Again the Magic Wand attachments won’t fit on it though.
4. Mystic Wand Rechargeable for $95.95 from Good Vibrations. As I mention in my review of this wand, it’s less powerful than the Magic Wand Original, but it’s much easier to hold, it’s smaller and lighter and it’s not as overwhelming. It’s rechargeable, but if you run out of juice, you can use it plugged in the cord. It’s really sleek and pretty. No attachments available.
5. Lovehoney Desire Wand for $99 from Lovehoney. Silicone, multi-speed and rechargeable. Not compatible with Magic Wand attachments.
6. Sola Egg Massager Passion Set Set for $119.99 from Shevibe. I’ve reviewed the Passion Set and it comes with two extra silicone attachments included. Sola Egg Massager is a super small handheld cordless wand with removable silicone head. Magic Wand attachments fit great on it too.

7. Swan Wand for $$119.99 from Shevibe. This is a fabulous strong and rumbly wand that looks really aesthetically pleasing. 100% silicone, waterproof and rechargeable. Not compatible with any attachments
8. Magic Wand Rechargeable for $124.95 from Peepshowtoys. What can I say? The updated cordless version of the Magic Wand Rechargeable is pretty awesome. The battery holds up to 4.5 hrs, the head is silicone, it has several speeds to fit everybody’s needs. And all of the attachments meant for the Magic Wand Original fit on it.
9.Tantus Rumble for $129.99 from Tantus. The Tantus Rumble is the first vibrator created with every body in mind. It’s a completely gender neutral vibrator, that is super hygienic, has a silicone head, that can be removed and properly cleaned. And it’s feather light! Magic Wand Attachments don’t really work with it, but Tantus sells attachments that fit Rumble. Read my full review here.
10. Doxy Die Cast for $189.99 from Shevibe. This one is simply the best and strongest wand on earth. Find out why.

Wand Attachments

1. PalmBliss for PalmPower for $13 from Peepshowtoys. It only works with the BSM Palm Power Wand Massager.

2. Flutter Tip by Wand Essentials for $19 from Peepshowtoys

3. Tantus Rumble Dorado Head $19 from Peepshowtoys. Only works with Tantus Rumble.

4. Pleasure Works Pop Top Nubby Purple for $22 from Shevibe

5. Pleasure Works Pop Top Ridged Blackfor $22 from Shevibe

6. Bliss Tips by Wand Essentials for $25 from Peepshowtoys

7. Fluttering Kiss by Wand Essentials $25 from Peepshowtoys

8. Pleasure Works Pop Top Off With Your Head Black for $27.99 from Shevibe

9. The Pop Tops Silicone G-Spotter for $40 from Good Vibrations. This g-spot attachment can be used anally for prostate play.

10. The Vixen Gee Whiz Attachment for $56.99 from Shevibe. Another super cool silicone g-spot attachment that can take anal play into the next level.

Dual Stimulators

Folks, I really couldn’t come up with 10 good rabbits I can happily recommend. But 7 is more than you’ll need. Seriously, this is the trickiest thing to buy. I’d stick to a good internal vibe or dildo and a good clitoral vibe. But if you insist… here:

1. Swan Hug Squeeze for $79 from Peepshowtoys

2. Jopen Vanity Vr6 for $109.99 from Shevibe

3. We-Vibe Nova for $149 from We-Vibe. The only truly rabbit vibrator that keeps contact with the clitoris as you thrust in and out. Read its full review.

4. Fun Factory Miss Bi for $149.99 from Peepshowtoys

5. Je Joue Dua for $156 from Shevibe. This isn’t a rabbit stile vibe. It’s a wearable that’s also app compatible and comes with a remote control. Read my review of Dua here.

6. L’Amourose Denia for $169 from Peepshowtoys

7. Lelo Ina 2 for $188 from Peepshowtoys

Harnesses

1. Tantus Vibrating Velvet Harness Black or Purple $31.19 from Tantus

2. RodeOh Crotchless Black Harness Panty $59.99 from Shevibe
3. Joque by SpareParts (multiple colors available) for $114.95 from Peepshowtoys. This is a fabulous high-quality harness that’s going to meet your every need. Full review here.
4. Bella Lingerie Harness Black by SpareParts for $149.95 from Peepshowtoys

5. Sasha Lingerie Harness by SpareParts Black or Red $149.95 from Peepshowtoys

Anal Toys

This is a slightly different list than the one I had in the Gift-Giving Guide: What to Get Your Partner if They Have a Penis?

  1. Tantus Ryder Butt Plug for $29 from Peepshowtoys. You can read my full review of this glorious intermediate to advanced butt plug here.

  2. FunFactory Bendybeads Anal Beads for $34.99 from Shevibe

  3. FunFactory Bootie Butt Plug Small for $34.99 from Shevibe (or Medium for $39.99)

  4. Tristan 1 Anal Plug (vibrating or non vibrating) by Vixen for $39.99 from Shevibe

  5. Njoy Pure Plug starting at $59 from Peepshowtoys$59 from Peepshowtoys

  6. Tantus Perfect Plug Vibrating Kit (2 plugs) for $68.00 from Tantus

7. Doxy Don Anal Vibrator for $89.99 from Shevibe. The rumbliest toy I own! Read my complete review here.

  1. Vixen Silicone Anal Beads Small for $89.99 from Shevibe (or Medium for $99.99)

  2. Trio Plug by b-Vibe for $140 from Good Vibrations. This medium-sized plug has three powerful motors and can be controlled from 30 ft away with a remote control! You can read my review here.

  3. Rimming Plug by b-Vibe (remote controlled) for $150 from Good Vibrations. Experience the rotating beads at the neck of the plug alongside with vibration in the shaft! Fantastic warm-up for anal intercourse! Find out more about it here.

Kegels

Kegel Balls

1. Fifty Shades of Grey Inner Goddess Silver Pleasure Balls for $29.99 from Lovehoney. These are really advanced kegels, and are more than twice as heavy as other regular exercise kegel balls.
2. Lelo Luna Beads Noir for $44.90 from Shevibe
3. Je Joue Ami for $59 from Peepshowtoys
4. Chakrubs Yoni Egg Rose Quartz for $65 from Chakrubs

5. Minna kGoal for $149 from Shevibe. These are smart kegels. This exercise system comes with an app and several games. I’ve been doing kegels dor years and this is the most advanced and nuanced program that’s been made so far.

STI Testing

At home discrete STI testing. MyLab BOX $49 for HIV, $79 for Chlamydia and Gonorrhea

Books

1. Best Women’s Erotica of the Year, Volume 1 edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel

2. Best Women’s Erotica of the Year, Volume 2 edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel
3. The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women by Tristan Taormino
4. Wild Side Sex The Book of Kink by Midori

10. Girl Sex 101 by Allison Moon

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Tantus Echo Review

Tantus Echo Vibrator Dildo

The meaning of it all…

First dildo review for my website! Squeee! How did I publish 20 posts and not a single one focusing on dildos? The universe is mysterious. Actually, this isn’t just a coincidence. It speaks of the state of the industry, and it speaks even more of the average customer’s preferences. Contrary to the common misconception, “a big dick” is not what women covet. Their orgasmic needs far exceed the crave for a phallus. These days we don’t seek a “replacement” or something that mimics the reality. We buy weird horseshoe shaped gadgets and novelties, we demand that our toys can be operated from the other end of the world, and we’re all hyped up about couples’ toys.

A fellow sex educator who works at a sex store said: people think that dildos are for dykes.

Let me tell you something. Dildos are for everybody. Straight or gay, man or woman, cisgender (identifying as the sex you were biologically born with) or transgender. And dildos can be freaking great. Yes, you are normal. You are not a pervert if you already own or want to buy a dildo. No, it’s not going to replace your partner. And no, you are not going to get “addicted” to it and never go back to “the real thing”.

Tantus Echo Vibrator DildoWhy are dildos so cool? To start with, dildos with flared bases, such as all Tantus products, are harness compatible and anal-safe. They’re easy to hold and you can use them on yourself or a partner can use them on you. Dildos nowadays come in all sorts of cool colors and shapes and don’t have to be realistic one bit. They can enhance your sex life even if you have a male partner already, because you can get a dildo with a different size than your partner’s equipment, and most importantly, you can pick one that has a pronounced g-spot curve. Sometimes you need to start small and a smaller toy is a great way to warm up for intercourse.

To the point…

Tantus is a company that is extremely sex-positive, has a really comprehensive website with lots of information and advices on it, and offers both realistic as well as really creative and unusual dildos. Their boxes are not pornographic or cheesy. So take a deep breath and repeat after me: owning a dildo is fun!

What the fudge?!

Yes, it’s a dick with 5 heads. Echo! The sensation of inserting the glans of the penis is echoed 5 times. I doubt that I am the only one that loooooves that moment, that first slide in, that delightful sensation of the head of the penis entering your vagina or anus and the rim of the glans rubbing against your opening… and then past the g-spot… Ahhh… can this last forever? Apparently it can! It feels as good as you’re imagining it. Believe me!

Sooo… how big is it?

Tantus Echo is 6.5″ long and 1.55″ at its widest (diameter). If you are not a fan of such deep penetration, you can absolutely enjoy it without taking it all in. In the dildo world, this is a medium-sized dildo. Usually smaller dildos are used for either warming up, or for pegging (when a woman wears a strap on an uses it anally on a male partner). A lot of people go way overboard and get a 2″ x 7″ dildo  as their first toy. I would say; start smaller, too big can be painful and requires a lot of building up to it. If you are advanced in butt play, this toy is really, really fantastic for anal penetration because the shape is the closest a cock can be to anal beads. A lot of my Tantus toys are way wider and I am not even dreaming of trying them in the back door, but this one passes the challenge quite successfully. It also has a certain smoothness and roundness that makes it particularly pleasant for anal adventures.

What else does it do?

This toy is quite accomplished at “just” being a dildo. Great for thrusting or squeezing your vaginal muscles and contracting around it. But if you are looking for more, there is more. It’s actually a vibrating dildo. It comes with the little Tantus bullet vibe (included in the price of the dildo), which you place in a hole at the base of the toy. The whole is the same size as most bullet vibes, so if you have an even more powerful vibrator, such as We-Vibe Tango/Salsa, it can fit it. The bullet is a one-speed waterproof vibrator, that is powered by one 1.5 V Type battery (not AA nor AAA, it actually lasts much longer). It comes with the battery, but you need to open it and remove the battery protection. And if something happens to the vibrator and one day it breaks, you can easily get a new one from Tantus, without having to replace your whole toy.

Another awesome feature that all Tantus vibrating dildos or plugs offer is that the toy is compatible with the ultra strong Tantus Suction Cup. This turns your toy into a hand-free joy. You can attach it to any surface and use it as if you’re having intercourse. You can attach it on the floor, facing up, get some pillows for your knees and ride it, or you can place it on any wall or vertical surface and have the dildo penetrate you from behind. If your hands tend to get tired from holding the dildo, or if you like a sensation closer to actual intercourse, that’s a great feature.

As I mentioned before, it’s harness compatible. Great for girl sex, or for pegging. While you’re at it you can grab a strap-on from Tantus too. They thought of everything!

How to make most of it

Experiment with your dildo. Don’t assume how you’re supposed to be using it. Jamming it in and a lot of friction might look great in porn, but that’s probably not how you would like to masturbate or be stimulated. Also try holding the dildo still while “humping” it with moves from your pelvis. And, of course, check out the vibration. You can remove the bullet from the toy and actually use it separately on your clit. A combination of g-spot stimulation from penetration and vibration on your clitoris might be your formidable orgasmic combo.

If you own a wand vibrator, such as the Hitachi Magic Wand or the Doxy, try touching the base of the toy with the wand, while the toy is inside of you. That’s going to make the whole toy vibrate in a much stronger and rumbly fashion, which is another entirely different sensation for you to explore.

Final words

I think that the Echo is one of the coolest ideas Tantus had and brought into the world. I love that it’s not too girthy, that it provides me with the repeated sensation of being penetrated by the head of the penis again and again. And I’ve taken advantage of all the ways this toy can be used: as a vibrator, with a suction cup, with a strap on, as an anal dildo. It’s made of body-safe silicone and comes in two gorgeous colors: pearl white and midnight purple. The reason mine is neither is that I bought it from their Grab Bag section, which has their “surprise” colors, mixtures and swirls. If you’re into some mystery, I’d suggest you try their grab bags because they’re cheaper than the regular price. If you have strong color preferences go with the regular one. If you don’t care much about the vibration, using it with a suction cup or a strap-on, Echo has a version with a longer handle, which makes the dildo much more easy to hold and use (and it also seems that they have a pink one, if you accidentally have fallen in love with mine).

You can boil your toy for sanitation and have the peace of mind that it’s completely non-porous. Basically unless you lose it, or your dog chews on it, nothing’s going to ever happen to it. Being made of the regular Tantus silicone blend, and not their softer O2 line, it’s a little hard and stiff. Shiny silicone has a drag to it, so use plenty of lube (stick with water-based or hybrid lube for silicone toys), especially upon initial insertion.

It’s one of my fave dildos and I absolutely recommend it to anyone who likes texture and doesn’t need a really pronounced g-spot curve. Is it newbie friendly and could it be one’s first toy? Hell yeah!

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Note: Tantus Echo was not provided to me in exchange of a review; it’s been a happy part of my toy family for a while now.


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