Fun Factory Share Review

Updated on 12/13/16.

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Fun Factory Share is something that would make most people think “What on earth?!”. If you are not familiar with feeldoes, strapless strap-ons or double ended dildos that are meant to rest behind the pubic bone, the shape of the Share will seem like something out of this world. You are probably going to wonder what goes where and how it could even work. Let me assure you, it works perfectly.

The Fun Factory Share is a double ended dildo meant for strap-on sex for queer couples or moresomes, lesbian couples and hetero pairs who are advanced in pegging. The Share works if at least one of the people involved has a vagina, since the big bulbous end goes inside of it and rests comfortably against the g-spot, while the part that looks like a dick, can be used for penetration.

And I can tell you folks, to quote Tina Horn, it’s the best gender fuckery ever. Let me unpack this, because my queerness goes a long way back, so does my history with the Share. See, I’ve been aware of my bisexuality and queerness since I was roughly 15-years old. I’ve always been attracted to women and I’ve always loved girl sex. Yet, as I already mentioned in my SpareParts Joque harness review, I’ve never been particularly interested in using toys and especially phallic shaped ones in my girl time. For some reason sleeping with babes use to be about everything else that we can do together. It was about being as different as possible from hetero sex. It was about eating pussy and ferocious finger fucking. It was about sensation play and enjoying our bodies. It was not about dicks at all. In fact, I couldn’t imagine having a “dick” anywhere in the picture.

Then years later, after realizing that hetero sex doesn’t have to be hetero-normative at all, I diversified my lesbian sex too, added more toys, and finally came around using dildos and penetration. Again, double ended dildos did not strike me as an option right away. To me holding a dildo often does a much better job, it gives me better control of wielding the toy, I can be closer to my partner’s vulva and I can enjoy that front row seat. But it also ultimately helps me give them probably more pleasure, because my hands are better trained at this job than my hips. Especially given that I don’t actually own a cock.

Fun Factory ShareThen I went to The Sexual Health Expo in NY this September and the awesome Tina Horn pointed out that the Share was her favorite toy, because it allows the pressure and the impact from the thrusts to travel through both bodies. It essentially allows a vulva-owner who’s topping with it to feel extreme pleasure while fucking someone. Isn’t this a mind fuck? Fucking someone with a dick (when you don’t have one), getting to enjoy the view and all that power and responsibility of topping someone while simultaneously experiencing the feeling of being fucked. Okay, this sounded really fun from Tina’s mouth. And I could definitely trust Tina when it came to queer hanky-panky.

Then just two weeks after SHE, I went to another awesome sex event. This time the road took me to Atlanta and the second edition of the rad conference Sex Down South and the amazing Strap-on Sex class taught by Andre Shakti. The praise and love for the Share was… shared by Andre as well. Okay, two queer babes, both sex educators and performers, were talking up the Share, so maybe the sex god(esse)s were trying to tell me to get one finally. And after all, if it disappointed me as a couples toy, I could always use it for masturbation, as Shakti pointed out (but we’ll get to this a little further down).

Fun Factory Share

If you’ve already had any sort of strap-on sex with a regular dildo, you know that as fun as strap-on sex is, there isn’t much pleasure and actual physical stimulation for the topping party. Instead there are bruised pubic mounds from the base of the dildo pounding against your mons, while you’re thrusting in and out. These are both issues completely resolved by double ended dildos like the Share. It even provides a pleasant clitoral stimulation thanks to the mound in between the external phallus part and the bulb.

Another thing about strap-on sex and topping is… well, it’s fucking hard. I give penis-owners that. Thrusting and shooting from the hip is harder than it looks. So after a couple of strap-on experiences with a regular dildo, I was like… “Fuck that, if I am going to work this hard, I need more gratification from it.”

So the decision’s been made, I needed a Share in my life…

Fun Factory ShareThe Share is entirely silicone and  comes in several colors: Baby Rose, Purple, Black and Vanilla. What I didn’t anticipate was a couple of things. First, how heavy this thing was. I mean, it’s freaking H-E-A-V-Y. Which was a bit of a let down, given that I kind of wanted to use it without a strap on, and enjoy the view of having a purple penis between my legs. Second, the hinge was suuuper flexible. Which meant that with the weight of the external part of the dildo, it was dangling between my legs, instead of being and perky and facing up, like a proud erect cock. Okay, none of these were a deal breaker. After all, it’s mighty difficult and distracting to keep the thing in without a strap-on, mainly because of its weight, but also because of lube. See, the internal bulb is really big. Which means that I always use lube to pop it in. Which, as you can guess, makes the thing slip right out of my vagina. No biggie, I decided to just use a harness with it. Joque is one of the few harnesses that actually works with double ended dildos. Most conventional harnesses have a piece of leather or fabric that cannot be removed and only allow for regular dildos to be used with them. Luckily all Spareparts harnesses can accommodate double ended dildos, do if the Joque is not sexy enough for you, you can opt in for lingerie harnesses like Bella or Sasha instead.

Okay, this was a whole new story. With the strap-on it did look like the perfectly erect, g-spot curved, delicious dildo that I had signed up for. Now we were talking.

This dildo made me come faster and harder than the lady I was fucking with it. Securely snuggled in place by my Joque harness, this time its weight played a wonderful role. It transmitted every push, every thrust, every movement, and pressed against my g-spot. The amount of pressure and the feeling of being so full were just out of this world. It’s also so fun to have someone give the dildo a hand job or suck on it, since that was all transmitted in the form of a wonderful movement inside of me, which provided me with blissful stimulation. Not as much as using it for penetration did, but close enough.

A few weeks later I was lucky to experience bottoming with the Share. And, oh dear Lord, I can’t tell you how perfect this g-spot curve is. The coronal ridge of the phallus is simply one of the best shaped things I’ve had in my vagina. Being on the receiving end of this toy made me have an even greater appreciation for it. I almost squirted all over the place, but because we didn’t have any Liberator Throe, I asked my girl to slow down a bit.

Positions

Fun Factory ShareAs I already mentioned, using it with a strap-on allows you to use the Fun Factory Share in every imaginable position. But if you are ambitious and want to use it as a strapless strap-on, my recommendations would be the following. Make gravity work for you. If the partner topping is standing on their feed, or pretty much in any upright position, such as doggy style or missionary, this is probably going to fail you a great deal, because gravity is working against you. Instead, be a pillow queen for a change and lie on your back. Have the bottom go on top of you. Cowgirl is about one of the positions that works best with the strapless Share. Or sit on a chair and have them ride you.

Because of how extremely pleasurable the g-spot curve is, I would always recommend positions that have the curve facing the front wall of the vagina of the receiver (in the case of two vulva-owners using it). Anything that has you face each other would work: missionary, cowgirl, at the edge of the bed on your back with legs on their shoulders, while the top is standing upright next to the bed.

The Share and Solo Sex

Don’t be fooled that this double ended dildo is just a toy for couple play only. In fact its shape works perfectly as a solo toy. Masturbating with it can be quite fun, especially if you are a size queen or a g-spot stim maniac. What the Share does is turn into a dildo with a handle. You would put the bulbous part inside of you and masturbate by jerking off the cock. I mean, isn’t that even more of a gender fuckery?

Share in Different Sizes

Fun Factory Share, Share XL and Share Petite

While the Share is a great dildo, it’s still an average in size. Luckily there’s more that Fun Factory can offer. The Share XL is more girthy and has a lovely texture to it, if you are into that. The difference in size is not that huge, compared to the regular Share, but the grooves and ridges provide much more intense sensation. Some people hate texture, because it can chafe and be painful if you have more sensitive vaginal walls (or rectum). So it really depends on your own preferences, but unless you are sure about the extra ridges, I would stick to the regular Share. And there’s the Fun Factory Share Petite which has a tiny phallus for the receiver, making it perfect for beginner peggers or for people with vaginismus or ones that only want to take something as big as a finger. If you want to throw some vibration into the mix, there’s the ShareVibe by Fun Factory, which has a slightly different shape. Both the internal bulb is a bit different, but also the cock doesn’t have any coronal ridge. In other words there’s no head of the penis, which is better for pegging and anal play, but will provide less g-spot stimulation for vaginal play. I haven’t used the ShareVibe, but I’ve held it in stores and the hinge is much less flexible than the one on the Share dildo, so at least they’ve addressed that issue.

The Share and Pegging

As I already mentioned in the previous paragraph, if you are new to pegging, you should absolutely start with the Share Petite. The anal sphincters are much tighter and will provide more resistance, so I would definitely use any of the Shares with a strap-on, if I were to use it for pegging.

A Few Things to Consider

dscn3087There are a few things to keep in mind before committing to buying the Share. One is that it needs a lot of lube, especially on the part of the dildo that looks like a penis, if you are going to use it without a condom. The Fun Factory silicone is kind of known for having a lot of drag to it. Another thing is that you might need a lot of warm-up to be able to take the bulb, if you are topping with it. It’s kind of big and it’s not the kind of thing I will pop into my vagina without working my way to it. The entire toy is made of silicone, so it can be boiled and there isn’t anything that makes using it with a condom mandatory, since silicone is non-porous. But if you are in a setting where you can’t properly sanitize a dildo and you might want to share it with a partner you are not fluid bonded with, you will need to cover it with a condom. And here’s the challenge. The base of the Share gets wider, so a condom just doesn’t stay put on the cock. But I found that if I tuck the condom under the stretchy O-ring of my SpareParts harness, it does stay in place. And I’ve mentioned this before, but it cannot emphasize this enough – the hinge is really flexible, so without the harness, the dong is going to dangle between your legs.

In a nutshell

Even with these few things to keep in mind, I still think that the Fun Factory Share is one of the best double ended dildos on the market and I absolutely love using it for girl sex and sometimes even for masturbation.

 You can get it for $105.99 from Peepshowtoys.

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Gift-Giving Guide: What to Get Your Partner if They Have a Vulva?

Best Sex Toys for Women

These gift-giving guides are proving to be a really hard work. Duh! But I hope they’re a helpful resource and will guide you through the tricky times of BLACK FRIDAY SALES.

Welcome to Part 2 of this shopping recommendation bonanza. Today we’re going to talk about toys for those with vulvas. Whether you’re shopping for yourself, or you’re shopping for your girlfriend, mother, sister, or wife, I am going to do my best to help you budget your purchases, as well as figure out what might be the toy that best meets your needs. Sex toys are the best gift a girl can receive, but often partners are completely clueless what to pick. If you don’t want to receive a tacky jelly rabbit vibe, maybe you can accidentally on purpose send this article to your loved ones. I’ve tested most of these toys and I’ve consulted other reviewers who have first hand experiences with them. So let me sherpa your way to the instant (well, almost, unless you are buying from a brick and mortar store) gratification that sex toy shopping can be.

All of these categories start with the lowest price, but without putting your health at risk. An important thing to try to remember when shopping for sex toys: always avoid things that look suspiciously cheap. I’ve only included body-safe options in this list, but if you wanna do your own shopping, please stick to these materials.

If you missed part 1, Gift-Giving Guide: What to Get Your Partner if They Have a Penis?, you can always check it out here.

Clitoral Stimulators

Best Clitoral Toys

1. RO-80 Bullet Vibrator by Rocks-Off for $17.99 from Shevibe

2. Vibratex Water Dancer (pocket rocket vibe) for $19 from Peepshowtoys

3. Rocks Off Bamboo for $21.99 from Shevibe

4. Fun Factory LAYAspot for $49.00 from Peepshowtoys

5. Satisfyer Pro 2 for $59.99 from Peepshowtoys. This one is not a vibrator. It stimulates the clitoris with gentle suction and pulsation. Water-proof, rechargeable and multi-speed. Read my full review here.

6. Vesper Crave for $69 from Shevibe. This is a wearable necklace with a bullet vibrator as a charm. Powerful, pinpoint and stylish.

7. We-Vibe Tango for $79 from We-Vibe. Simply the best bullet vibe ever created.

8. We-Vibe Touch for $99 from We-Vibe.  This is a deep and rumbly less pinpoint version of the Tango. Much easier to hold in place, but as orgasmic!

9. Womanizer Pro40 for $99 from Peepshowtoys. The newest version of this toy is cheaper, waterproof and doesn’t look like a something Barbie bought  while on ecstasy.

10. Crave Duet for $149 from Good Vibrations. This one is a glorious powerhouse in a little pocket jewel.

G-Spot Vibrators

1. Slander G by Pleasure Works for $22 from Good Vibrations 
2. Callie Wand by Jopen for $54 from Peepshowtoys
3. Lovelife Cuddle for $69 from Peepshowtoys

4. Comet Wand II Key for $79 from Peepshowtoys. Find out why it brings so much joy to my g-spot. Get it before they discontinue it!
5. Swan Curve Squeeze for $89 from Peepshowtoys. Find out why I named it one of the best toys I’ve tried in 2016.
6. L’Amourose PRISM V for $99 from Peepshowtoys. Epiphora absolutely loved this g-spot vibe.
7. We-Vibe Rave for $119 from We-Vibe. If you only get to choose one toy of this whole guide, I’d say: get We-Vibe Rave. I haven’t published my review of it yet, and that’s because it always leaves me speechless.
8. Fun Factory Moody for $139.99 from Peepshowtoys
9. L’Amourose Rosa for $159 from Peepshowtoys

10. Lelo Mona 2 for $169 from Peepshowtoys

Harness compatible dildos

1. Godemiche Ambit Dildo for $34.99 from Shevibe2. Pleasure Works Bullseye for $38 from Good Vibrations3. Pride Rainbow G-Spot Silicone Dildo by BS for $74.99 from Shevibe

4. Tantus Echo for $75.77 from Tantus. This amazing creation has several coronal ridges. You know that awesome feeling when the head of the penis is in? Well, this is the whole shaft of Echo! Full review here.
5. The BJ Dildo for $78 from Good Vibrations. This dildo creates a pleasurable suction on the wearer’s clitoris, when sucked. If you are into all sorts of queer gender fuckery, this might be a dream come true.
6. Tantus Cush O2 dual density silicone dildo for $84.06 from Tantus
7. Tantus Slick Large dual density silicone dildo for $89 from Tantus
8. Fun Factory Bouncer for $99 from Good Vibrations.  This dildo has bouncing balls inside of it that move as you thrust. Pretty cool, huh?
9. VixSkin Mustang dual density silicone dildo for $99.99 from Shevibe in skin colors or bright multicolor

10. FunFactory Share for $106 from Good Vibrations. This is a great double ended dildo with a bulbous part to be worn internally by the one topping for equal pleasure. It can be used for masturbation too, since grabbing it by the shaft actually makes it really easy to maneuver. You can only use it with harnesses that are compatible with double ended dildos, such as Joque by SpareParts.

Handheld Dildos

1. Lovehoney Double Ended Textured Sensual Glass for $29.99 from Lovehoney
2. Lelo Ella for $53.99 from Peepshowtoys of from Shevibe. This little object has helped countless number of people to find their g-spot and squirt for the first time. It’s unfortunately being discontinued, so hurry and get it while you can!
3. Tantus G-Force for $69.97 from Tantus. The genius design of this dildo with handle allows you to thrust more easily without having your hands get tired of holding it.
4. Crowned Jewels Shaftsbury Aluminum C Curve Dildo for $69.99 from Shevibe. This creation is made by a British company that specializes in unique metal sex toys.
5. Njoy Pure Wand for $110 from Peepshowtoys. This toy is no joke. It’s going to last you a lifetime, since it’s virtually unbreakable, and it’s going to give you the most amazing g-spot orgasms, and maybe even teach you squirt!
6. Laid D.2 Stone Dildo for $110.99 from Shevibe. This granite dildo has a similar shape to the We-Vibe Rave, since Laid is currently a sister brand of We-Vibe. The same fabulous g-spot stimulation, with more weight for better pressure and temperature play.
7. Fucking Sculptures G-Spoon Glass Dildo for $129.99 from Shevibe. This is a hand-made glass dildo that as the name suggests is as beautiful as a piece of art. It’s as useful as it is pretty.
8. NobEssence Seduction for $145 from Peepshowtoys. We continue with the beautiful pieces of art: this is a 100% wooden dildo with a prominent g-spot curve.
9. Chakrubs Thick Chakrub starting at $150 from Chakrubs. These dildos are made by different crystals that correspond to each chakra. They’re healing in Buddhism, and help you achieve better health and inner peace, but the thick round shapes of these dildos are quite pleasurable as well. Read my review of the Rabbit Jade Chakrub.

10. Chakrubs Rose Wand for $189.95 from Chakrubs. This dildo is made by Rose Quartz and has a prominent g-spot bulb at the end.

Wand Vibrators

1. Shibari Halo Wand for $54.99 from Shevibe. This one is rechargeable, water-proof and body safe. What else can one need from a wand? Only downside is that the Magic Wand attachments won’t fit on this one.
2. BMS PalmPower Wand Massager for $69 from Peepshowtoys. Another body-safe option with a removable silicone head. It even has a rechargeable version for the same price! You can purchase additional attachments for this one, but your Magic Wand attachments won’t fit.
3. Jimmyjane Iconic Wand for $74.99 form Shevibe. This multi-speed, waterproof rechargeable wand is a top pick of many. Again the Magic Wand attachments won’t fit on it though.
4. Mystic Wand Rechargeable for $95.95 from Good Vibrations. As I mention in my review of this wand, it’s less powerful than the Magic Wand Original, but it’s much easier to hold, it’s smaller and lighter and it’s not as overwhelming. It’s rechargeable, but if you run out of juice, you can use it plugged in the cord. It’s really sleek and pretty. No attachments available.
5. Lovehoney Desire Wand for $99 from Lovehoney. Silicone, multi-speed and rechargeable. Not compatible with Magic Wand attachments.
6. Sola Egg Massager Passion Set Set for $119.99 from Shevibe. I’ve reviewed the Passion Set and it comes with two extra silicone attachments included. Sola Egg Massager is a super small handheld cordless wand with removable silicone head. Magic Wand attachments fit great on it too.

7. Swan Wand for $$119.99 from Shevibe. This is a fabulous strong and rumbly wand that looks really aesthetically pleasing. 100% silicone, waterproof and rechargeable. Not compatible with any attachments
8. Magic Wand Rechargeable for $124.95 from Peepshowtoys. What can I say? The updated cordless version of the Magic Wand Rechargeable is pretty awesome. The battery holds up to 4.5 hrs, the head is silicone, it has several speeds to fit everybody’s needs. And all of the attachments meant for the Magic Wand Original fit on it.
9.Tantus Rumble for $129.99 from Tantus. The Tantus Rumble is the first vibrator created with every body in mind. It’s a completely gender neutral vibrator, that is super hygienic, has a silicone head, that can be removed and properly cleaned. And it’s feather light! Magic Wand Attachments don’t really work with it, but Tantus sells attachments that fit Rumble. Read my full review here.
10. Doxy Die Cast for $189.99 from Shevibe. This one is simply the best and strongest wand on earth. Find out why.

Wand Attachments

1. PalmBliss for PalmPower for $13 from Peepshowtoys. It only works with the BSM Palm Power Wand Massager.

2. Flutter Tip by Wand Essentials for $19 from Peepshowtoys

3. Tantus Rumble Dorado Head $19 from Peepshowtoys. Only works with Tantus Rumble.

4. Pleasure Works Pop Top Nubby Purple for $22 from Shevibe

5. Pleasure Works Pop Top Ridged Blackfor $22 from Shevibe

6. Bliss Tips by Wand Essentials for $25 from Peepshowtoys

7. Fluttering Kiss by Wand Essentials $25 from Peepshowtoys

8. Pleasure Works Pop Top Off With Your Head Black for $27.99 from Shevibe

9. The Pop Tops Silicone G-Spotter for $40 from Good Vibrations. This g-spot attachment can be used anally for prostate play.

10. The Vixen Gee Whiz Attachment for $56.99 from Shevibe. Another super cool silicone g-spot attachment that can take anal play into the next level.

Dual Stimulators

Folks, I really couldn’t come up with 10 good rabbits I can happily recommend. But 7 is more than you’ll need. Seriously, this is the trickiest thing to buy. I’d stick to a good internal vibe or dildo and a good clitoral vibe. But if you insist… here:

1. Swan Hug Squeeze for $79 from Peepshowtoys

2. Jopen Vanity Vr6 for $109.99 from Shevibe

3. We-Vibe Nova for $149 from We-Vibe. The only truly rabbit vibrator that keeps contact with the clitoris as you thrust in and out. Read its full review.

4. Fun Factory Miss Bi for $149.99 from Peepshowtoys

5. Je Joue Dua for $156 from Shevibe. This isn’t a rabbit stile vibe. It’s a wearable that’s also app compatible and comes with a remote control. Read my review of Dua here.

6. L’Amourose Denia for $169 from Peepshowtoys

7. Lelo Ina 2 for $188 from Peepshowtoys

Harnesses

1. Tantus Vibrating Velvet Harness Black or Purple $31.19 from Tantus

2. RodeOh Crotchless Black Harness Panty $59.99 from Shevibe
3. Joque by SpareParts (multiple colors available) for $114.95 from Peepshowtoys. This is a fabulous high-quality harness that’s going to meet your every need. Full review here.
4. Bella Lingerie Harness Black by SpareParts for $149.95 from Peepshowtoys

5. Sasha Lingerie Harness by SpareParts Black or Red $149.95 from Peepshowtoys

Anal Toys

This is a slightly different list than the one I had in the Gift-Giving Guide: What to Get Your Partner if They Have a Penis?

  1. Tantus Ryder Butt Plug for $29 from Peepshowtoys. You can read my full review of this glorious intermediate to advanced butt plug here.

  2. FunFactory Bendybeads Anal Beads for $34.99 from Shevibe

  3. FunFactory Bootie Butt Plug Small for $34.99 from Shevibe (or Medium for $39.99)

  4. Tristan 1 Anal Plug (vibrating or non vibrating) by Vixen for $39.99 from Shevibe

  5. Njoy Pure Plug starting at $59 from Peepshowtoys$59 from Peepshowtoys

  6. Tantus Perfect Plug Vibrating Kit (2 plugs) for $68.00 from Tantus

7. Doxy Don Anal Vibrator for $89.99 from Shevibe. The rumbliest toy I own! Read my complete review here.

  1. Vixen Silicone Anal Beads Small for $89.99 from Shevibe (or Medium for $99.99)

  2. Trio Plug by b-Vibe for $140 from Good Vibrations. This medium-sized plug has three powerful motors and can be controlled from 30 ft away with a remote control! You can read my review here.

  3. Rimming Plug by b-Vibe (remote controlled) for $150 from Good Vibrations. Experience the rotating beads at the neck of the plug alongside with vibration in the shaft! Fantastic warm-up for anal intercourse! Find out more about it here.

Kegels

Kegel Balls

1. Fifty Shades of Grey Inner Goddess Silver Pleasure Balls for $29.99 from Lovehoney. These are really advanced kegels, and are more than twice as heavy as other regular exercise kegel balls.
2. Lelo Luna Beads Noir for $44.90 from Shevibe
3. Je Joue Ami for $59 from Peepshowtoys
4. Chakrubs Yoni Egg Rose Quartz for $65 from Chakrubs

5. Minna kGoal for $149 from Shevibe. These are smart kegels. This exercise system comes with an app and several games. I’ve been doing kegels dor years and this is the most advanced and nuanced program that’s been made so far.

STI Testing

At home discrete STI testing. MyLab BOX $49 for HIV, $79 for Chlamydia and Gonorrhea

Books

1. Best Women’s Erotica of the Year, Volume 1 edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel

2. Best Women’s Erotica of the Year, Volume 2 edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel
3. The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women by Tristan Taormino
4. Wild Side Sex The Book of Kink by Midori

10. Girl Sex 101 by Allison Moon

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Joque SpareParts Harness Review

Joque SpareParts Harness Review

I will have to start this review with a confession. I’ve been sleeping with women for 10+ years and up until a few weeks ago I’ve never used a strap-on. I just have never felt the “need” to. Dicks were definitely not missed during my girl time. I used to rarely even use any toys during my lesbian sex. All we wanted were our bodies, almost as if to prove that we’re enough and that we can get the job done on our own terms.

But people grow and develop, and surprisingly to me, even I grew-up. And realized that steering clear from any kind of sex or pleasure, is staying in a box. To me sex represents liberation and being free. So if I were in fact, bisexual, pansexual, pleasure-driven, sex-positive woman, why run away from something that even remotely represented heteronormative sex?  What I realized is that incorporating a phallus doesn’t make me less of a feminist, less of a lesbian, or less of who I am. Isn’t girl sex all about that? It can be anything you want it to be. So many things ARE sex, and sometimes just humping someone’s leg through their clothes can be sex. So throw whatever you want in the mix and redefine what you call sex.

With that introduction in mind, my curiosity about strap-on sex grew bigger and bigger. I already owned an impressive collection of Tantus dildos that are all strap-on compatible. And clearly I’ve heard legends about the SpareParts harnesses. So not surprisingly, this is the first harness I picked to review.

Brief intro to harnesses

A harness is the garment that holds the dildo. A number of brands will sell you both in one package, and the complete package is usually called strap-on. The reason some companies sell these together, is that depending on the kind of harness one is using, the harness might not fit most dildo sizes.  How most harnesses work is by using O-rings. The ring will fit a certain girth, and if you want to change dildos mid-session, you have to unclip the O-ring, change it to a size that fits, and then put the new dildo and clip back on the ring. If it sounds like a pain, that’s because it IS.

And if we were to separate harnesses into two big categories, those would be: ones that are adjustable and you don’t have to worry that much about fitting, because they can be tightened or loosened up. And there are the ones that look like underwear, briefs or undies: like the Bella, Sasha, or the Tomboi from SpareParts. For those you need to make sure that you’re fitted correctly. If it’s too tight it will give you a muffin top and it will be difficult to move around, let alone fuck someone, and if it’s too loose, it’s not going to give you enough support.

About SpareParts

SpareParts specialize in high-quality super versatile harnesses. Most of their models hold patents, and they’ve received a number of awards. SpareParts is absolutely the best brand when it comes to non-leather or non faux-leather harnesses. Most of their things are made by materials such as spandex, have a number of adjustable parts and are made with comfort, convenience and durability in mind. They are definitely expensive, compared to a number of other brands and products, but they will last you years of fuss-free and hassle-free strap-on sex.

Their packaging looks more like high-end lingerie, and this certainly adds to the whole experience.

About Joque

Joque by SpareParts is by far the most notorious harness ever made. It’s loved by many, praised by sex bloggers, recommended by sex educators and hugely used by members of different lifestyles. If you are looking for one harness to end all harnesses, look no further, Joque found you.

Joque only comes in two sizes, because each of them can fit waist sizes ranging from 20”-50” or 35”-65”. Everything on it is customizable: the leg straps, the waist straps. If you are anything like me and your weight fluctuates a lot, investing your money in Joque is probably the smartest thing.  It’s a two-strap jokey style harness. You can wear your sexy g-string underneath and tease your partner with your hot bootie, or not leave things to imagination and go commando. Joque is breathable, washable and is entirely hygienic, it can be shared with partners (if washed between uses), and that’s not going to shorten its life, because it’s made of highly durable materials. It comes in several colors: black, white, purple, red and blue.

Features

It has a stretchy O-ring that can accommodate dildos of different sizes. All you will need your dildo to have is a flared base. Joque has two little pockets above and below the O-ring, in which you can fit small vibrators. Changing dildos is really easy, the waist of the harness is Velcro, you just loosen it up, take dildo 1 out and put dildo 2 in. It’s simple as that. You don’t have to worry about wearing it underneath your clothes. As I said, it’s super comfortable and even if you’re going out and just want to wear it underneath your jeans or skirt, it’s barely noticeable.

Applications

Joque is a great harness for a number of scenarios. It can be used for pegging (that’s when a woman fucks a man in the ass with strap-on), because it can accommodate even smaller dildos, it’s great for girl sex, it can also be used with a double-ended dildo, such as The Share Double by Fun Factory, because it’s crotchless and has one’s vulva exposed and easily playable with.  The last thing makes it perfect for FMF or FFF threesomes. While one of the girls is fucking the other with the strap-on, she can simultaneously receive penetration or other genital play from the guy (or a third woman with a strap-on).

Tips for more enjoyable topping with Joque

Joque SpareParts Harness ReviewThe top in strap-on sex is the one wearing the strap on and the one penetrating.  Overall people seem to think that there isn’t much one in this position can to do receive pleasure. I am not talking just purely the pleasure of having sex and giving someone else joy. But let’s face it, it’s a lot of work, and there’s not much happening in the top’s nether regions.

So what can be done to fix that? One thing that I love is wearing Kegel balls while using a strap-on. The motions will move the balls around, will cause you to clench around them, and that alone can make you cum. Try wearing a vibrating egg. Or putting a little vibe in the pouch. People seem to love their We-Vibe Tango for that job, but I honestly love my Eva by Dame.  Another trick for less pain from the base of the dick pressing against your mons: get a dildo with a soft base meant for strap-on play, such as the Royale line by Vixen.  Or buy one of these little pillows for underneath the base of the dildo.

In conclusion

Joque turned out to be everything I’ve imagined it would be. It’s not just a lot of talk and fuss. It sells for $114.95 at Peepshowtoys and you can get 10% off with code: WETLANDIA. It’s absolutely worth every dime. If you can’t afford it even at this price, I would say: save your money, wait for some Black Friday or Christmas Sales, to get Joque even a bit more discounted, and save yourself the whole trouble of wasting money on disappointing harnesses. And put your Joque (and your Njoy toys) in the prenup. You will want to take these, and they will last you that long.

Disclaimer: Joque was generously provided to me by SpareParts in exchange for my honest review. My opinions and thoughts in this post reflect my experience with the product and are not altered in any way. I am using affiliate links in this post, which help me support this blog. By buying through them you’re giving me the opportunity to keep up the good work.


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