Gift-Giving Guide: What to Get Your Partner if They Have a Vulva?

Best Sex Toys for Women

These gift-giving guides are proving to be a really hard work. Duh! But I hope they’re a helpful resource and will guide you through the tricky times of BLACK FRIDAY SALES.

Welcome to Part 2 of this shopping recommendation bonanza. Today we’re going to talk about toys for those with vulvas. Whether you’re shopping for yourself, or you’re shopping for your girlfriend, mother, sister, or wife, I am going to do my best to help you budget your purchases, as well as figure out what might be the toy that best meets your needs. Sex toys are the best gift a girl can receive, but often partners are completely clueless what to pick. If you don’t want to receive a tacky jelly rabbit vibe, maybe you can accidentally on purpose send this article to your loved ones. I’ve tested most of these toys and I’ve consulted other reviewers who have first hand experiences with them. So let me sherpa your way to the instant (well, almost, unless you are buying from a brick and mortar store) gratification that sex toy shopping can be.

All of these categories start with the lowest price, but without putting your health at risk. An important thing to try to remember when shopping for sex toys: always avoid things that look suspiciously cheap. I’ve only included body-safe options in this list, but if you wanna do your own shopping, please stick to these materials.

If you missed part 1, Gift-Giving Guide: What to Get Your Partner if They Have a Penis?, you can always check it out here.

Clitoral Stimulators

Best Clitoral Toys

1. RO-80 Bullet Vibrator by Rocks-Off for $17.99 from Shevibe

2. Vibratex Water Dancer (pocket rocket vibe) for $19 from Peepshowtoys

3. Rocks Off Bamboo for $21.99 from Shevibe

4. Fun Factory LAYAspot for $49.00 from Peepshowtoys

5. Satisfyer Pro 2 for $59.99 from Peepshowtoys. This one is not a vibrator. It stimulates the clitoris with gentle suction and pulsation. Water-proof, rechargeable and multi-speed. Read my full review here.

6. Vesper Crave for $69 from Shevibe. This is a wearable necklace with a bullet vibrator as a charm. Powerful, pinpoint and stylish.

7. We-Vibe Tango for $79 from We-Vibe. Simply the best bullet vibe ever created.

8. We-Vibe Touch for $99 from We-Vibe.  This is a deep and rumbly less pinpoint version of the Tango. Much easier to hold in place, but as orgasmic!

9. Womanizer Pro40 for $99 from Peepshowtoys. The newest version of this toy is cheaper, waterproof and doesn’t look like a something Barbie bought  while on ecstasy.

10. Crave Duet for $149 from Good Vibrations. This one is a glorious powerhouse in a little pocket jewel.

G-Spot Vibrators

1. Slander G by Pleasure Works for $22 from Good Vibrations 
2. Callie Wand by Jopen for $54 from Peepshowtoys
3. Lovelife Cuddle for $69 from Peepshowtoys

4. Comet Wand II Key for $79 from Peepshowtoys. Find out why it brings so much joy to my g-spot. Get it before they discontinue it!
5. Swan Curve Squeeze for $89 from Peepshowtoys. Find out why I named it one of the best toys I’ve tried in 2016.
6. L’Amourose PRISM V for $99 from Peepshowtoys. Epiphora absolutely loved this g-spot vibe.
7. We-Vibe Rave for $119 from We-Vibe. If you only get to choose one toy of this whole guide, I’d say: get We-Vibe Rave. I haven’t published my review of it yet, and that’s because it always leaves me speechless.
8. Fun Factory Moody for $139.99 from Peepshowtoys
9. L’Amourose Rosa for $159 from Peepshowtoys

10. Lelo Mona 2 for $169 from Peepshowtoys

Harness compatible dildos

1. Godemiche Ambit Dildo for $34.99 from Shevibe2. Pleasure Works Bullseye for $38 from Good Vibrations3. Pride Rainbow G-Spot Silicone Dildo by BS for $74.99 from Shevibe

4. Tantus Echo for $75.77 from Tantus. This amazing creation has several coronal ridges. You know that awesome feeling when the head of the penis is in? Well, this is the whole shaft of Echo! Full review here.
5. The BJ Dildo for $78 from Good Vibrations. This dildo creates a pleasurable suction on the wearer’s clitoris, when sucked. If you are into all sorts of queer gender fuckery, this might be a dream come true.
6. Tantus Cush O2 dual density silicone dildo for $84.06 from Tantus
7. Tantus Slick Large dual density silicone dildo for $89 from Tantus
8. Fun Factory Bouncer for $99 from Good Vibrations.  This dildo has bouncing balls inside of it that move as you thrust. Pretty cool, huh?
9. VixSkin Mustang dual density silicone dildo for $99.99 from Shevibe in skin colors or bright multicolor

10. FunFactory Share for $106 from Good Vibrations. This is a great double ended dildo with a bulbous part to be worn internally by the one topping for equal pleasure. It can be used for masturbation too, since grabbing it by the shaft actually makes it really easy to maneuver. You can only use it with harnesses that are compatible with double ended dildos, such as Joque by SpareParts.

Handheld Dildos

1. Lovehoney Double Ended Textured Sensual Glass for $29.99 from Lovehoney
2. Lelo Ella for $53.99 from Peepshowtoys of from Shevibe. This little object has helped countless number of people to find their g-spot and squirt for the first time. It’s unfortunately being discontinued, so hurry and get it while you can!
3. Tantus G-Force for $69.97 from Tantus. The genius design of this dildo with handle allows you to thrust more easily without having your hands get tired of holding it.
4. Crowned Jewels Shaftsbury Aluminum C Curve Dildo for $69.99 from Shevibe. This creation is made by a British company that specializes in unique metal sex toys.
5. Njoy Pure Wand for $110 from Peepshowtoys. This toy is no joke. It’s going to last you a lifetime, since it’s virtually unbreakable, and it’s going to give you the most amazing g-spot orgasms, and maybe even teach you squirt!
6. Laid D.2 Stone Dildo for $110.99 from Shevibe. This granite dildo has a similar shape to the We-Vibe Rave, since Laid is currently a sister brand of We-Vibe. The same fabulous g-spot stimulation, with more weight for better pressure and temperature play.
7. Fucking Sculptures G-Spoon Glass Dildo for $129.99 from Shevibe. This is a hand-made glass dildo that as the name suggests is as beautiful as a piece of art. It’s as useful as it is pretty.
8. NobEssence Seduction for $145 from Peepshowtoys. We continue with the beautiful pieces of art: this is a 100% wooden dildo with a prominent g-spot curve.
9. Chakrubs Thick Chakrub starting at $150 from Chakrubs. These dildos are made by different crystals that correspond to each chakra. They’re healing in Buddhism, and help you achieve better health and inner peace, but the thick round shapes of these dildos are quite pleasurable as well. Read my review of the Rabbit Jade Chakrub.

10. Chakrubs Rose Wand for $189.95 from Chakrubs. This dildo is made by Rose Quartz and has a prominent g-spot bulb at the end.

Wand Vibrators

1. Shibari Halo Wand for $54.99 from Shevibe. This one is rechargeable, water-proof and body safe. What else can one need from a wand? Only downside is that the Magic Wand attachments won’t fit on this one.
2. BMS PalmPower Wand Massager for $69 from Peepshowtoys. Another body-safe option with a removable silicone head. It even has a rechargeable version for the same price! You can purchase additional attachments for this one, but your Magic Wand attachments won’t fit.
3. Jimmyjane Iconic Wand for $74.99 form Shevibe. This multi-speed, waterproof rechargeable wand is a top pick of many. Again the Magic Wand attachments won’t fit on it though.
4. Mystic Wand Rechargeable for $95.95 from Good Vibrations. As I mention in my review of this wand, it’s less powerful than the Magic Wand Original, but it’s much easier to hold, it’s smaller and lighter and it’s not as overwhelming. It’s rechargeable, but if you run out of juice, you can use it plugged in the cord. It’s really sleek and pretty. No attachments available.
5. Lovehoney Desire Wand for $99 from Lovehoney. Silicone, multi-speed and rechargeable. Not compatible with Magic Wand attachments.
6. Sola Egg Massager Passion Set Set for $119.99 from Shevibe. I’ve reviewed the Passion Set and it comes with two extra silicone attachments included. Sola Egg Massager is a super small handheld cordless wand with removable silicone head. Magic Wand attachments fit great on it too.

7. Swan Wand for $$119.99 from Shevibe. This is a fabulous strong and rumbly wand that looks really aesthetically pleasing. 100% silicone, waterproof and rechargeable. Not compatible with any attachments
8. Magic Wand Rechargeable for $124.95 from Peepshowtoys. What can I say? The updated cordless version of the Magic Wand Rechargeable is pretty awesome. The battery holds up to 4.5 hrs, the head is silicone, it has several speeds to fit everybody’s needs. And all of the attachments meant for the Magic Wand Original fit on it.
9.Tantus Rumble for $129.99 from Tantus. The Tantus Rumble is the first vibrator created with every body in mind. It’s a completely gender neutral vibrator, that is super hygienic, has a silicone head, that can be removed and properly cleaned. And it’s feather light! Magic Wand Attachments don’t really work with it, but Tantus sells attachments that fit Rumble. Read my full review here.
10. Doxy Die Cast for $189.99 from Shevibe. This one is simply the best and strongest wand on earth. Find out why.

Wand Attachments

1. PalmBliss for PalmPower for $13 from Peepshowtoys. It only works with the BSM Palm Power Wand Massager.

2. Flutter Tip by Wand Essentials for $19 from Peepshowtoys

3. Tantus Rumble Dorado Head $19 from Peepshowtoys. Only works with Tantus Rumble.

4. Pleasure Works Pop Top Nubby Purple for $22 from Shevibe

5. Pleasure Works Pop Top Ridged Blackfor $22 from Shevibe

6. Bliss Tips by Wand Essentials for $25 from Peepshowtoys

7. Fluttering Kiss by Wand Essentials $25 from Peepshowtoys

8. Pleasure Works Pop Top Off With Your Head Black for $27.99 from Shevibe

9. The Pop Tops Silicone G-Spotter for $40 from Good Vibrations. This g-spot attachment can be used anally for prostate play.

10. The Vixen Gee Whiz Attachment for $56.99 from Shevibe. Another super cool silicone g-spot attachment that can take anal play into the next level.

Dual Stimulators

Folks, I really couldn’t come up with 10 good rabbits I can happily recommend. But 7 is more than you’ll need. Seriously, this is the trickiest thing to buy. I’d stick to a good internal vibe or dildo and a good clitoral vibe. But if you insist… here:

1. Swan Hug Squeeze for $79 from Peepshowtoys

2. Jopen Vanity Vr6 for $109.99 from Shevibe

3. We-Vibe Nova for $149 from We-Vibe. The only truly rabbit vibrator that keeps contact with the clitoris as you thrust in and out. Read its full review.

4. Fun Factory Miss Bi for $149.99 from Peepshowtoys

5. Je Joue Dua for $156 from Shevibe. This isn’t a rabbit stile vibe. It’s a wearable that’s also app compatible and comes with a remote control. Read my review of Dua here.

6. L’Amourose Denia for $169 from Peepshowtoys

7. Lelo Ina 2 for $188 from Peepshowtoys

Harnesses

1. Tantus Vibrating Velvet Harness Black or Purple $31.19 from Tantus

2. RodeOh Crotchless Black Harness Panty $59.99 from Shevibe
3. Joque by SpareParts (multiple colors available) for $114.95 from Peepshowtoys. This is a fabulous high-quality harness that’s going to meet your every need. Full review here.
4. Bella Lingerie Harness Black by SpareParts for $149.95 from Peepshowtoys

5. Sasha Lingerie Harness by SpareParts Black or Red $149.95 from Peepshowtoys

Anal Toys

This is a slightly different list than the one I had in the Gift-Giving Guide: What to Get Your Partner if They Have a Penis?

  1. Tantus Ryder Butt Plug for $29 from Peepshowtoys. You can read my full review of this glorious intermediate to advanced butt plug here.

  2. FunFactory Bendybeads Anal Beads for $34.99 from Shevibe

  3. FunFactory Bootie Butt Plug Small for $34.99 from Shevibe (or Medium for $39.99)

  4. Tristan 1 Anal Plug (vibrating or non vibrating) by Vixen for $39.99 from Shevibe

  5. Njoy Pure Plug starting at $59 from Peepshowtoys$59 from Peepshowtoys

  6. Tantus Perfect Plug Vibrating Kit (2 plugs) for $68.00 from Tantus

7. Doxy Don Anal Vibrator for $89.99 from Shevibe. The rumbliest toy I own! Read my complete review here.

  1. Vixen Silicone Anal Beads Small for $89.99 from Shevibe (or Medium for $99.99)

  2. Trio Plug by b-Vibe for $140 from Good Vibrations. This medium-sized plug has three powerful motors and can be controlled from 30 ft away with a remote control! You can read my review here.

  3. Rimming Plug by b-Vibe (remote controlled) for $150 from Good Vibrations. Experience the rotating beads at the neck of the plug alongside with vibration in the shaft! Fantastic warm-up for anal intercourse! Find out more about it here.

Kegels

Kegel Balls

1. Fifty Shades of Grey Inner Goddess Silver Pleasure Balls for $29.99 from Lovehoney. These are really advanced kegels, and are more than twice as heavy as other regular exercise kegel balls.
2. Lelo Luna Beads Noir for $44.90 from Shevibe
3. Je Joue Ami for $59 from Peepshowtoys
4. Chakrubs Yoni Egg Rose Quartz for $65 from Chakrubs

5. Minna kGoal for $149 from Shevibe. These are smart kegels. This exercise system comes with an app and several games. I’ve been doing kegels dor years and this is the most advanced and nuanced program that’s been made so far.

STI Testing

At home discrete STI testing. MyLab BOX $49 for HIV, $79 for Chlamydia and Gonorrhea

Books

1. Best Women’s Erotica of the Year, Volume 1 edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel

2. Best Women’s Erotica of the Year, Volume 2 edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel
3. The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women by Tristan Taormino
4. Wild Side Sex The Book of Kink by Midori

10. Girl Sex 101 by Allison Moon

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Gift-Giving Guide: What to Get Your Partner if They Have a Penis?

Gift-Giving Guide Penis Toys

In the few days leading up to one of America’s biggest holidays: Black Friday, the phenomenon that draws everybody to their electronics right after they’re done with (or sometimes while) overeating turkey and candied yams, I am going to release a couple of gift-giving guides for everybody. There are in fact some amazing sex toy sales coming our way. And sometimes the choices can be overwhelming. Other times, we can get tricked into buying cheap and useless crap, especially if the particular sex toy shop we’re purchasing from is selling porous toys as well. Often jelly, rubber, TPR and TPE toys can be purchased literally for a couple of bucks, but I will try to give you a few body-safe suggestions regardless of your budget. A lot of these you will be able to purchase with huge discounts, so stay tuned and refresh my BLACK FRIDAY SALES PAGE often in the next few days.

This particular guide is going to feature toys you can buy for your partner, if they have a penis. I currently don’t have a whole lot penis or prostate toy reviews, so I wanted to make things right. If you have a partner who has a vulva, you might wanna check out vol 2 of this guide: Gift-Giving Guide: What to Get Your Partner if They Have a Vulva?

Each category starts with the cheapest toys. Note that these are retail prices and don’t include any Black Friday discounts, or any of the discounts my coupon codes give you. Gift-Giving Guide Penis Toys

Note: Why am I using “penis” and “penis-owners” instead of men, guys, boyfriend or dudes. Because not all people who have penises identify as “male” and I want to focus on the equipment we have, instead of our gender identities. So yes, if you do happen to have a boyfriend or a husband, who’s cis-gender (their assigned sex at birth matches their gender identity: born with penis, identifies as “male”) that’s the right guide for you. If you have a trans pre-op girlfriend, a lot of these are going to work for you as well. I am also going to try make this guide as non-hetero normative as possible. Yes, dildos are not just for vaginas, they can go in butts too! (Even if you’re not gay!)

The mainstream media is often trying to convey that “porn is for guys and sex toys are for gals”. They brainwash us that the sex toy industry only caters to those with vulvas. That is not only completely false, but you will get surprised by how many choices there are when it comes to toys designed for penis-owners. Hell, some of the coolest new toys this year were ones that go on dicks! (Woot-woot Hot Octopuss!)

Strokers

The world of penis strokers, sleeves, or masturbators is immense. The shapes and the designs have evolved greatly too. Open-ended sleeves, or ones that look like a cup, taco-like strokers, vibrating or non-vibrating. Their price-range starts at less than $10 and goes all the way to around $150 for the most sophisticated ones. Don’t forget to always use lube with all of these!

1. Tenga Eggs for $6.99 from Shevibe. These are the best stocking fillers ever. They can be a fun prank, or a really good gateway drug into the world of penis strokers. They’re small, but extremely stretchy. They’re porous and are recommended for one use only. You can definitely squeeze a couple of uses out of each one, if you clean it thoroughly, but bear in mind that you’d better toss it away after a couple of play sessions. They come in a huge variety of textures and patterns on the inside, and each of them gives a slightly different sensation. You can cut off the top of the egg and turn it into an open-ended sleeve and combine stroking with it with a blow job on the head of the penis. They’re also a great travel-friend, since you can just toss them away after you’re done with them.
2. Tenga Cup for $9.99 from Shevibe. This is another disposable one-use only toy by Tenga. It’s much deeper and bigger, and comes with a suction for a much more realistic sensation. It comes in a hard case, which makes it completely unwashable and non-reusable once you ejaculate in it, but it’s another good novelty and perfect travel companion, if you don’t wanna travel with your more valuable and fragile toys.
3. Truskyn The Tru Stroke Beaded or Ribbed for $19 from Peepshowtoys. This is the cheapest silicone stroker you are going to find. I’ve just reviewed the Tru Stroke Beaded and I am so happy to report that there’s a decent, affordable silicone penis toy that even comes in two variations: beaded or ribbed. It’s open-ended and open-seam design allows it to accommodate penises of different sizes, and you can control the sensation just by adjusting your grip. A great toy to combine with blow jobs and teasing.
4. Vibrating masturbator by Rocks Off for $29.99 from Shevibe. This one is made of body-safe silicone and ABS plastic and comes with the RO-80mm Bullet vibrator. Which means you can take out the bullet and use it on other body parts. This one is a great deal for a battery-operated toy.
5. Fleshlight Quick Shot for $34.95 from Fleshlight. A short, open-ended and less aversive and misogynistic option from Fleshlight. This is also a good one to combine with oral sex.
6. Tenga 3D sleeves for $39.99 from Shevibe. These are simply a reusable and more sophisticated version of the Tenga 3D eggs.
7. Fleshlight Flight for $49.95 from Fleshlight. A full size stroker from Fleshlight, that doesn’t end with something that resembles female genitalia, mouth or an ass. And is a little cheaper than the “Fleshlight Girls“.
8. Rocks Off Rise Rechargeable for $69.99 from Peepshowtoys. This is the rechargeable multi-speed version of our #3. This one will give you hours of playtime on a single charge, and has a couple of vibration patters.
9. Tenga Flip Zero for $99.00 from Good Vibrations. One of the stars of the show, and without a doubt one of the most sophisticated strokers on the market. The internal part is extremely complex and provides rich sensations, one can control the grip and the tightness, as well as a suction mode. And it’s a breeze to clean, since it opens up and can even dry out standing on its own external case.

10. Hot Octopuss Pulse II Solo for $99 from Good Vibrations. If you want to splurge this toy has received some of the most rave reviews and has a really unique technology. It’s a vibrating masturbator that features penile vibrations and oscillations. It also look pretty damn cool.

Penis Toys and Male Toys

Cock Rings

Cock Rings are super fun to use. The choices are mind-blowing. Single or double, vibrating or non-vibrating, stretchy or not, silicone or metal. In the following round up I’ve only featured silicone cock rings, because they’re easier to use. Metal or wooded rings are for far more advanced users, because they’re completely stiff. Cock rings help you keep the blood in your penis and make your erection harder, longer lasting and bigger. Have you always wanted that veiny big cock that looks like it’s about to blow up? Cock rings are your solution. They can have only one strap and if they’re smaller, they can go only around the penis, while bigger single rings can be stretched around the balls and the cock at once. Always place these when the penis is still flaccid. Vibrating cock rings can be equally pleasurable for both parties. Stick to positions that allow you to have the vibrating bullet on the clitoris: cowgirl or missionary work great.Cock Rings

1. Tantus Super Soft C-Ring for $10.99 from Tantus. A super simple silicone ring that can be stretched around the penis and the balls. Beginners friendly.
2. Optimale Thick Silicone Cock Ring for $12 from Peepshowtoys. This one is pretty similar to the Tantus C-ring.
3. Fifty Shades of Grey Adjustable Cock Ring $14.99 from Lovehoney. Adjustable silicone rings are a great solution to beginners or shopping online, since they can be customized and tightened up much more easily. They can also be pulled out right away, even with a hard-on, while most of the others can only be taken off after you lose your erection.
4. Set of 3 Optimale Thick Silicone Cock Rings for $22 from Peepshowtoys. A set of different sizes is great for beginners, since it’s always recommended to start off with something bigger and more flexible and maybe move to a smaller ring once you’re used to placing it and taking it off.
5. Optimale Vibrating Cock Ring for $25 from Peepshowtoys. This battery-operated single ring comes are a really good price. It has several vibration modes and speeds and it’s pretty easy to operate.
6. Tantus C-Sling for $34.64 from Tantus. This sling-style cock ring applies pressure on the perineum. While fucking, it’s going to rock back and forth and massage the prostate on the outside.
7. Optimale Vibrating Double Cock Ring for $35 from Peepshowtoys. This is a double cock ring – one of the rings goes around the penis, while the bigger ring goes around the balls. One of the bullets is placed on the perineum, for prostate stimulation, and the other one is great for clitoral stimulation. Each of the bullets is battery operated, can be removed and has multiple speeds. Read my full review here.
8. Tantus Vibrating Super Soft C-Ring for $39.90 from Tantus
9. Tenga Smart Vibe Ring for $79.99 from Shevibe. If you know that you like cock rings and are ready to invest into a stronger, rechargeable and higher quality ring.
10. Je Joue Mio Rechargeable Cock Ring for $109 from Good Vibrations.

Vibrators

Tantus Rumble and Mystic Wand Rechargeable

Vibrations can feel amazing when applied externally on the shaft of the penis, on the frenulum and the head, or on the balls and the perineum! One can use an smaller (or big!) wand-stile vibrator on the scrotum while performing a blow job, or a hand job. A lot of men love masturbating with these: simply hold the vibe against your balls while you’re stroking yourself. Something great about this category is that all of these vibes can be shared by both partners! And as you will see from the next category, these can be repurposed and made even more versatile with the help of good attachments.

1. Shibari Halo Wand for $54.99 from Shevibe. This one is rechargeable, water-proof and body safe. What else can one need from a wand? Only downside is that the Magic Wand attachments won’t fit on this one.
2. Magic Wand Original (aka Hitachi) for $59.95 from Good Vibrations. This one is an icon. If you are looking for maximum power and don’t mind the cord, go for it. Its only downsides are the porous head of the toy and the only two speeds that might be too overwhelming for some folks. Fits all Magic Wand attachments.
3. BMS PalmPower Wand Massager for $69 from Peepshowtoys. Another body-safe option with a removable silicone head. It even has a rechargeable version for the same price! You can purchase additional attachments for this one, but your Magic Wand attachments won’t fit. Another body-safe option with a removable silicone head. It even has a rechargeable version for the same price! You can purchase additional attachments for this one, but your Magic Wand attachments won’t fit.
4. Jimmyjane Iconic Wand for $74.99 form Shevibe. This multi-speed, waterproof rechargeable wand is a top pick of many. Again the Magic Wand attachments won’t fit on it though.
5. Mystic Wand Rechargeable for $95.95 from Good Vibrations. As I mention in my review of this wand, it’s less powerful than the Magic Wand Original, but that’s what makes a some penis-owners like it. It’s smaller and lighter, easier to hold and it’s not as overwhelming. It’s rechargeable, but if you run out of battery, you can use it plugged in the cord. It’s really sleek and pretty. No attachments.

6. Lovehoney Desire Wand for $99 from Lovehoney. Silicone, multi-speed and rechargeable. Not compatible with Magic Wand attachments.
7. Sola Egg Massager Wellness Set for $109.99 from Shevibe. I’ve reviewed the Passion Set version of this set, that just comes with different silicone attachments included. I think the Wellness Set might be a better option for penis-owners, since they can’t really benefit much with the Bunni and Omi attachments of the other one. What’s the Sola Egg Massager: it’s a super small, handheld cordless wand with removable silicone head. Magic Wand attachments fit great on it and it’s just fantastic for penises when combined with the Hummingbird attachment (see next category).
8. Magic Wand Rechargeable for $124.95 from Peepshowtoys. What can I say? The updated cordless version of the Magic Wand Rechargeable is pretty awesome. The battery holds up to 4.5 hrs, the head is silicone, it has several speeds to fit everybody’s needs. And all of the attachments meant for the Magic Wand Original fit on it.
9.Tantus Rumble for $129.99 from Tantus. The Tantus Rumble is the first vibrator created with every body in mind. It’s a completely gender neutral vibrator, that is super hygienic, has a silicone head, that can be removed and properly cleaned. And it’s feather light! Magic Wand Attachments don’t really work with it, but Tantus sells attachments that fit Rumble. Read my full review here.
10. Doxy Die Cast for $189.99 from Shevibe. This one is simply the best and strongest wand on earth. Find out why.

Magic Wand Attachments

Something great about Doxy and the Magic Wand Original or Rechargeable is that they can be turned into so many other things. Just place one of the following attachments and enjoy your wand in a completely new way. Again: lube is mandatory!

1. The Hummingbird Masturbator Attachment for $23.99 from Shevibe. This is a masturbation sleeve that goes on top of your wand. It’s the best thing since sliced bread. It can make even a flaccid penis ejaculate, and it’s great for folks with ED, but even if you have no problem maintaining a full erection, this attachment is going to give you the sensation of a masturbation sleeve and the strong wand vibrations at once. Keep in mind that this attachment is porous, so you might wanna replace it after a couple of months.
2. The Pop Tops Silicone G-Spotter for $40 from Good Vibrations. This g-spot attachment can be used anally for prostate play.
3. The Vixen Gee Whiz Attachment for $56.99 from Shevibe. Another super cool silicone g-spot attachment that can take anal play into the next level.

Prostate Toys

Prostate toys are a great way to discover your prostate. Prostate massage is not only pleasurable, but also helps prevent prostate cancer. Oh, and did I mention that you can enjoy hands-free orgasms lasting minutes with most of these?

Prostate and Anal Toys


1. Nexus Glide Prostate Massager for $35.99 from Shevibe
2. Aneros Eupho Classic for $50 from Good Vibrations
3. Lelo Bob Prostate Massager for $59 from Shevibe
4. Rude-Boy Intense Vibrating Prostate Massager by Rocks-Off for $59.99 from Shevibe
5. Tantus Prostate Play Vibrating for $71.40 from Tantus
6. Njoy Pfun Plug for 89.90 from Peepshowtoys
7. Njoy Fun Wand for $95 from Peepshowtoys

8. Black Pearl Rechargeable Vibrating Prostate Massager by Vibratex for $104.95 from Shevibe.
9. Njoy Pure Wand for $110 from Peepshowtoys. The bigger side of this toy has been helping women and have g-spot orgasms for years, but it’s as notorious for it’s smaller end that’s just fab for prostate massage. Because of its long handle men can experiment with it solo, as well as with a partner.
10. Nexus Revo 2 Rotating Vibrating Prostate Massager for $149.99 from Shevibe.This is a really high-quality multi-speed rechargeable prostate toy that has rave reviews.

Anal Toys

These suggestions are great for virtually everybody, since we all have anuses, regardless of our sex. These are not necessarily aimed to the prostate, but rather allow you to enjoy different kind of anal sensations and pleasure.


1. Tantus Ryder Butt Plug for $29 from Peepshowtoys. You can read my full review of this glorious intermediate to advanced butt plug here.

2. Fun Factory Flexi Felix Anal Beads for $34.99 from Shevibe

3. Fun Factory Bootie Butt Plug Small for $34.99 from Shevibe (or Medium for $39.99)

4. Tantus Ripple Small Plug for $37.54 from Tantus. I’ve reviewed the bigger sibling of this plug, Ripple Large.

5. Vibrating Progressive Beads for $58.00 from Tantus

6. Tantus Perfect Plug Vibrating Kit (2 plugs) for $68.00 from Tantus7. Doxy Don Anal Vibrator for $89.99 from Shevibe. The rumbliest toy I own! Read my complete review here.

8. Vixen Silicone Anal Beads Small for $89.99 from Shevibe (or Medium for $99.99)

9. Trio Plug by b-Vibe for $140 from Good Vibrations. This medium-sized plug has three powerful motors and can be controlled from 30 ft away with a remote control! You can read my review here.

10. Rimming Plug by b-Vibe (remote controlled) for $150 from Good Vibrations. This large plug has two motors: the one at the tip has vibrations, while the one in the neck of the plug rotates! Find out more about it here.

Pegging Kits, Harnesses and Dildos

Luckily anal play is becoming less and less of a taboo. A number of hetero couples are dipping their toes into pegging: when the female partner uses a strap on to penetrate the male anally. Pegging can be super fun, but remember to always start small, be patient, communicate with your partner and use a lot of lube. Here are a couple of suggestions for harnesses, strap-on kits or dildos that are good for pegging.

Another way you can use harnesses in your sex life is for double penetration. #10 on the list is a double harness: your partner can have their penis outside, and use a dildo as well to double penetrate you vaginally and anally at the same time. So fun! Or you can use a double ended toy, such as #8 Share Vibe, and enjoy g-spot stimulation while penetrating him anally.

1. Godemiche Ambit Dildo for $34.99 from Shevibe
2. Fuze Silicone Nova Dildo $39.99 from Shevibe
3. Fuze Silicone Velvet Dildo $44.99 from Shevibe
4. Tantus Slow Drive Dildo for $46.20 from Tantus
5. Tantus Sport Kit (dildo and harness) for $71.93 from Tantus
6. Spareparts Joque Harness for $114.95 from Peepshowtoys. This is a fabulous high-quality harness that’s going to meet your every need. Full review here.
7. Tantus Bend Over Beginner Kit (harness and two dildos) for $120.21 from Tantus
8. Fun Factory ShareVibe for $129.99 from Shevibe
9. Tantus Bend Over Intermediate Kit (harness and two dildos) for $133.30 from Tantus

10. Spareparts Deuce Harness for $134.95 from Peepshowtoys

Kegels for Penises

Because Kegels are for everybody! The Private Gym is the first (and only FDA-approved) kegel program for penis-owners. Ships worldwide. $99.99 from their website.

STI Testing

At home discrete STI testing. MyLab BOX $49 for HIV, $79 for Chlamydia and Gonorrhea

Books

And since great sex is not all about toys, but often communication or skills play a huge role, here are a couple of great books my some of my favorite authors.

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How to Have Kinky Sex on The Road

In case you missed my bragging about it, I spent the best part of my summer at Sex Geek Summer Camp with Reid Mihalko and a whole bunch of amazing Sex Geeks.

What made camp such an unforgettable experience for me was having the opportunity to work and exchange ideas with other inspiring sex educators, coaches and counselors. Here is the love-child of one of these interactions. When I heard that Kat Nantz (Sexual Empowerment Coach from Guelph, Ontario) had spent 6 months in a camper, crossing the United States with her boyfriend, and that they didn’t have to sacrifice their hot and kinky sex life, I had to hear more about it.

Find out how to make your own solar panel and plug in your Hitachi Magic Wand or recharge your toys on the go, how to do bondage and enjoy rope play even if you are confined to a small RV. Learn why taking Uberlube with you is a must, how to practice safer sex, how to have your toys clean and sterile, how to know your STI status even if you’re thousands of miles away from your health provider, and more in this fun and candid video.

 

And if you have SEX GEEK t-shirt envy, just get over with it and order yours already.


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Doxy Die Cast Review

Updated Aug 26 2016

doxy (2)I still remember last year’s Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit when Crista Anne Orenda, JoEllen Notte (The Redhead Bedhead) and Stephen Biggs were flashing around a gorgeous wand vibrator and telling people how amazing it is and that it could get off even people who are experiencing anorgasmia as a result of depression treatment with SSRIs (eg. Zoloft, Celexa, etc.)  I thought “If two awesome sex bloggers and a therapist are passionately recommending a wand, which isn’t the Hitachi, that thing must be good”.

Doxy Die Cast MassagerThat was a year ago and the vibrating wand was the Doxy Massager. Since then the Doxy Original has evolved into the kick-ass (pardon my French) even most dazzling Doxy Die Cast. And these same colleagues loved it even more. Okay, this thing really must be something else. So I had to order it from the Doxy table at Woodhull SFS 16.

Doxy is… like the futuristic British cousin of the Hitachi Original.

So how is the Doxy different and better?

Don’t judge a book by its cover. Should you then judge a vibe from its looks? Well, clearly there’s no correlation between looks and functionality (and there are plenty of examples of beautiful luxury useless toys), but one can still appreciate and seek beauty in the world, right? The Die Cast is just so gorgeous, and I am the last person to judge you if that played a role in your decision to buy one.

doxy (7)Doxy just released several new color options for the Die Cast. Now you can choose between the original silver one, black, read, purple and white. If you get the silver one, keep in mind that fingerprints and smudging is a risk. Several other sex toy reviewers said that it gets really dirty very fast. Not an issue with the black one. The Die Cast comes with a zip-up storage case, that makes your Doxy more discreetly stored in your closet or easier to transport (if you are one of these people, who would bring a 1.9 lbs (2lbs 13oz with the case) and 13″ long toy on their trip. Not judging, I can totally relate.)

This massager is corded and you will need a power outlet in order to use it. Luckily the folks from Doxy thought this through: the cord is significantly longer than the one on other corded wands (10 feet) it can safely be used world-wide (you will just need an adapter for the outlet).

Die Cast has three easy buttons. The power on/off (it also switches between the steady mode and it’s cascading pattern), and the + and – . It has much finer nuances and the power settings are increasing or decreasing really gradually. The buttons light up (so you can find it in the dark) in and are really easy to use. No clunky switches. Die Cast is really smart too – it remembers where you left off. It will automatically turn on to the setting you were last using it. So no annoying pressing the + several times until you get to your desired power mode.

Upon turning one on there’s something that can’t possibly remain unnoticed. It’s so quiet. To quote my partner: “When I used to come back from work, I could hear you from the elevator (which is several apartments down the hall). I just didn’t know whether you were vacuuming, or using your Hitachi.” Whoever owns a Hitachi knows how awkward and loud that gadget is. The Die Cast is like a nice purring kitten compared to it. Don’t get me wrong. It’s still loud if you put it against to your extra quiet bullet vibe. After all, it’s a wand. And as such, it’s the quietest I’ve encountered so far.

Let’s talk about its quality. This toy is a freaking work of art. It’s made in the UK, unlike the Hitachi which is made in China (no, not made in Japan. The box clearly says “Designed in Japan, made in China”). It’s made of super high quality materials, the handle made of casted (got it, Die Cast?) aluminum and titanium metals and the head is silicone. That is a big deal in terms of sanitizing or sharing the toy with other lovers, because, because honestly,  it’s not easy to put a condom on a wand vibrator. And other non-silicone heads (including the older Doxy) are porous. That means that Die Cast isn’t gonna harbor bacteria or viruses in its material (which is a risk with non-silicone heads, even if you clean them thoroughly). Just a small reminder: you can only use water based and hybrid lubes with it, silicone lubes might damage the silicone head.

Doxy Die Cast MassagerHow do the vibrations feel? They’re deep, nuanced, and rumbly. The feel of the silicone is very thuddy. That could be a hit or miss, and it takes some getting used to, especially if you were a Hitachi addict already. It does feel different. Fortunately, all the Hitachi attachments that you already own, or wanna buy, will fit your Doxy as well.

I need to talk a bit more about the cascading pattern though. The pattern RULES! RULZZZ!!! (Not a sentence I thought will ever come out of my mouth when it comes to patterns.) I never liked them, pulsations, waves or cascades. I used to get irritated with them because they would never get me off, and will just waste my time keeping orgasms farther and farther from me. This doesn’t apply to the Doxy. It’s cascades are genius and often make me climax faster that the steady pattern. My guess why that is would be that the Die Cast is so damn strong and overwhelming, that one needs little “breaks” in order to actually enjoy and savor the sensations.

How to clean it? Sanitizing it is really easy. Just don’t submerge it underwater. You can wipe out the handle with sanitizing wipes or a little bit of hand sanitizer on a wet cloth. As for the head: any toy cleaner or just soap and water will do the trick.

It comes with a 12-month manufacturer warranty, but you have to have a proof of purchase.

Don’t estimate it as a all-bodies toy either. The Doxy is great for men too. It has an astonishing effect on the penis, the balls and the perineum. And there are even “male” attachments for it: they look like a masturbation sleeve. Just go slower, start with a really low setting. And do not press the wand against the balls, I’ve been told it can get too intense and painful.

And clearly… Die Cast is an awesome massager as well. You can reach your back and neck and work these sore muscles. Try it out on your buttocks or legs after working out. It’s godsend!

I can’t write a review on a Doxy and not mention the key word: fully clothed orgasms. Yeap. Want an orgasm through your jeans? Doxy’s got you covered.

What’s not so great about it?

So far I’ve only outlined its advantages and upgrades from other wand massagers. But let’s take a look at my concerns. Okay, I do not own a Hitachi Magic Wand Rechargeable. But the new Magic Wand has a silicone head, and has several power settings too. And is rechargeable on top if it. The Hitachi rechargeable is 1.3 lbs (Hitachi Original: 1.2 lbs), which is lighter than the Doxy. In many ways it does look like that the Hitachi Rechargeable is addressing a lot of the issues that the Doxy does too, while being cheaper in comparison.

And one just Doxy specific disadvantage – sometimes accidentally I press the power button and turn it off, because it’s the closest one to the head and the + is the middle one. That’s happened a couple of times. And is very frustrating to have something shut off, instead of go higher and more powerful.

Tips for using a wand vibrator

Doxy Die Cast MassagerBesides the countless options for attachments, some of which are insertable, some of which are textured and are for external stimulation, how does one actually use a wand vibrator? You can hold it on your clit (don’t start with direct clit stimulation and always start on the lowest setting), on your labia, or simply above your pubic bone. As if showing someone where your g-spot is, but from the outside. You can try using a dildo, or just having vaginal balls inside, while using the wand vibe externally. Or you can even try a g-spot vibe internally alongside using a wand externally on your clit. Just experiment and have fun. And give it a few tries. Wands can be overwhelmingly strong for some people. That’s why the Doxy is actually so newbie friendly. It can start really low.

Of course, there are plenty of BDSM uses of a wand vibrator. Doxy is just great for forced orgasms.

In Conclusion

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I love the Die Cast. I truly do. But I always feel bad and guilty when telling people “you definitely need to have this toy” when it costs roughly $200. Is the Doxy worth it? If you can afford it, definitely get it. And if money’s an issue, more affordable, but really good options, are Hitachi/Magic Wand Original ($59.99), Doxy Original ($109.99) or a Hitachi/Magic Wand Rechargeable ($124.99).

Is it worth getting it if you already have a Hitachi? Again, if it’s within financial reach: YES. It’s really feels quite different. Am I gonna stop using and needing my Hitachi? Nope. I still have a special place in my heart for it, and I am gonna say it again: they feel different.

Buy your Die Cast from SheVibe at $189.99 or from Tantus at $209.99


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