Gift-Giving Guide: What to Get Your Partner if They Have a Penis?

Gift-Giving Guide Penis Toys

In the few days leading up to one of America’s biggest holidays: Black Friday, the phenomenon that draws everybody to their electronics right after they’re done with (or sometimes while) overeating turkey and candied yams, I am going to release a couple of gift-giving guides for everybody. There are in fact some amazing sex toy sales coming our way. And sometimes the choices can be overwhelming. Other times, we can get tricked into buying cheap and useless crap, especially if the particular sex toy shop we’re purchasing from is selling porous toys as well. Often jelly, rubber, TPR and TPE toys can be purchased literally for a couple of bucks, but I will try to give you a few body-safe suggestions regardless of your budget. A lot of these you will be able to purchase with huge discounts, so stay tuned and refresh my BLACK FRIDAY SALES PAGE often in the next few days.

This particular guide is going to feature toys you can buy for your partner, if they have a penis. I currently don’t have a whole lot penis or prostate toy reviews, so I wanted to make things right. If you have a partner who has a vulva, you might wanna check out vol 2 of this guide: Gift-Giving Guide: What to Get Your Partner if They Have a Vulva?

Each category starts with the cheapest toys. Note that these are retail prices and don’t include any Black Friday discounts, or any of the discounts my coupon codes give you. Gift-Giving Guide Penis Toys

Note: Why am I using “penis” and “penis-owners” instead of men, guys, boyfriend or dudes. Because not all people who have penises identify as “male” and I want to focus on the equipment we have, instead of our gender identities. So yes, if you do happen to have a boyfriend or a husband, who’s cis-gender (their assigned sex at birth matches their gender identity: born with penis, identifies as “male”) that’s the right guide for you. If you have a trans pre-op girlfriend, a lot of these are going to work for you as well. I am also going to try make this guide as non-hetero normative as possible. Yes, dildos are not just for vaginas, they can go in butts too! (Even if you’re not gay!)

The mainstream media is often trying to convey that “porn is for guys and sex toys are for gals”. They brainwash us that the sex toy industry only caters to those with vulvas. That is not only completely false, but you will get surprised by how many choices there are when it comes to toys designed for penis-owners. Hell, some of the coolest new toys this year were ones that go on dicks! (Woot-woot Hot Octopuss!)

Strokers

The world of penis strokers, sleeves, or masturbators is immense. The shapes and the designs have evolved greatly too. Open-ended sleeves, or ones that look like a cup, taco-like strokers, vibrating or non-vibrating. Their price-range starts at less than $10 and goes all the way to around $150 for the most sophisticated ones. Don’t forget to always use lube with all of these!

1. Tenga Eggs for $6.99 from Shevibe. These are the best stocking fillers ever. They can be a fun prank, or a really good gateway drug into the world of penis strokers. They’re small, but extremely stretchy. They’re porous and are recommended for one use only. You can definitely squeeze a couple of uses out of each one, if you clean it thoroughly, but bear in mind that you’d better toss it away after a couple of play sessions. They come in a huge variety of textures and patterns on the inside, and each of them gives a slightly different sensation. You can cut off the top of the egg and turn it into an open-ended sleeve and combine stroking with it with a blow job on the head of the penis. They’re also a great travel-friend, since you can just toss them away after you’re done with them.
2. Tenga Cup for $9.99 from Shevibe. This is another disposable one-use only toy by Tenga. It’s much deeper and bigger, and comes with a suction for a much more realistic sensation. It comes in a hard case, which makes it completely unwashable and non-reusable once you ejaculate in it, but it’s another good novelty and perfect travel companion, if you don’t wanna travel with your more valuable and fragile toys.
3. Truskyn The Tru Stroke Beaded or Ribbed for $19 from Peepshowtoys. This is the cheapest silicone stroker you are going to find. I’ve just reviewed the Tru Stroke Beaded and I am so happy to report that there’s a decent, affordable silicone penis toy that even comes in two variations: beaded or ribbed. It’s open-ended and open-seam design allows it to accommodate penises of different sizes, and you can control the sensation just by adjusting your grip. A great toy to combine with blow jobs and teasing.
4. Vibrating masturbator by Rocks Off for $29.99 from Shevibe. This one is made of body-safe silicone and ABS plastic and comes with the RO-80mm Bullet vibrator. Which means you can take out the bullet and use it on other body parts. This one is a great deal for a battery-operated toy.
5. Fleshlight Quick Shot for $34.95 from Fleshlight. A short, open-ended and less aversive and misogynistic option from Fleshlight. This is also a good one to combine with oral sex.
6. Tenga 3D sleeves for $39.99 from Shevibe. These are simply a reusable and more sophisticated version of the Tenga 3D eggs.
7. Fleshlight Flight for $49.95 from Fleshlight. A full size stroker from Fleshlight, that doesn’t end with something that resembles female genitalia, mouth or an ass. And is a little cheaper than the “Fleshlight Girls“.
8. Rocks Off Rise Rechargeable for $69.99 from Peepshowtoys. This is the rechargeable multi-speed version of our #3. This one will give you hours of playtime on a single charge, and has a couple of vibration patters.
9. Tenga Flip Zero for $99.00 from Good Vibrations. One of the stars of the show, and without a doubt one of the most sophisticated strokers on the market. The internal part is extremely complex and provides rich sensations, one can control the grip and the tightness, as well as a suction mode. And it’s a breeze to clean, since it opens up and can even dry out standing on its own external case.

10. Hot Octopuss Pulse II Solo for $99 from Good Vibrations. If you want to splurge this toy has received some of the most rave reviews and has a really unique technology. It’s a vibrating masturbator that features penile vibrations and oscillations. It also look pretty damn cool.

Penis Toys and Male Toys

Cock Rings

Cock Rings are super fun to use. The choices are mind-blowing. Single or double, vibrating or non-vibrating, stretchy or not, silicone or metal. In the following round up I’ve only featured silicone cock rings, because they’re easier to use. Metal or wooded rings are for far more advanced users, because they’re completely stiff. Cock rings help you keep the blood in your penis and make your erection harder, longer lasting and bigger. Have you always wanted that veiny big cock that looks like it’s about to blow up? Cock rings are your solution. They can have only one strap and if they’re smaller, they can go only around the penis, while bigger single rings can be stretched around the balls and the cock at once. Always place these when the penis is still flaccid. Vibrating cock rings can be equally pleasurable for both parties. Stick to positions that allow you to have the vibrating bullet on the clitoris: cowgirl or missionary work great.Cock Rings

1. Tantus Super Soft C-Ring for $10.99 from Tantus. A super simple silicone ring that can be stretched around the penis and the balls. Beginners friendly.
2. Optimale Thick Silicone Cock Ring for $12 from Peepshowtoys. This one is pretty similar to the Tantus C-ring.
3. Fifty Shades of Grey Adjustable Cock Ring $14.99 from Lovehoney. Adjustable silicone rings are a great solution to beginners or shopping online, since they can be customized and tightened up much more easily. They can also be pulled out right away, even with a hard-on, while most of the others can only be taken off after you lose your erection.
4. Set of 3 Optimale Thick Silicone Cock Rings for $22 from Peepshowtoys. A set of different sizes is great for beginners, since it’s always recommended to start off with something bigger and more flexible and maybe move to a smaller ring once you’re used to placing it and taking it off.
5. Optimale Vibrating Cock Ring for $25 from Peepshowtoys. This battery-operated single ring comes are a really good price. It has several vibration modes and speeds and it’s pretty easy to operate.
6. Tantus C-Sling for $34.64 from Tantus. This sling-style cock ring applies pressure on the perineum. While fucking, it’s going to rock back and forth and massage the prostate on the outside.
7. Optimale Vibrating Double Cock Ring for $35 from Peepshowtoys. This is a double cock ring – one of the rings goes around the penis, while the bigger ring goes around the balls. One of the bullets is placed on the perineum, for prostate stimulation, and the other one is great for clitoral stimulation. Each of the bullets is battery operated, can be removed and has multiple speeds. Read my full review here.
8. Tantus Vibrating Super Soft C-Ring for $39.90 from Tantus
9. Tenga Smart Vibe Ring for $79.99 from Shevibe. If you know that you like cock rings and are ready to invest into a stronger, rechargeable and higher quality ring.
10. Je Joue Mio Rechargeable Cock Ring for $109 from Good Vibrations.

Vibrators

Tantus Rumble and Mystic Wand Rechargeable

Vibrations can feel amazing when applied externally on the shaft of the penis, on the frenulum and the head, or on the balls and the perineum! One can use an smaller (or big!) wand-stile vibrator on the scrotum while performing a blow job, or a hand job. A lot of men love masturbating with these: simply hold the vibe against your balls while you’re stroking yourself. Something great about this category is that all of these vibes can be shared by both partners! And as you will see from the next category, these can be repurposed and made even more versatile with the help of good attachments.

1. Shibari Halo Wand for $54.99 from Shevibe. This one is rechargeable, water-proof and body safe. What else can one need from a wand? Only downside is that the Magic Wand attachments won’t fit on this one.
2. Magic Wand Original (aka Hitachi) for $59.95 from Good Vibrations. This one is an icon. If you are looking for maximum power and don’t mind the cord, go for it. Its only downsides are the porous head of the toy and the only two speeds that might be too overwhelming for some folks. Fits all Magic Wand attachments.
3. BMS PalmPower Wand Massager for $69 from Peepshowtoys. Another body-safe option with a removable silicone head. It even has a rechargeable version for the same price! You can purchase additional attachments for this one, but your Magic Wand attachments won’t fit. Another body-safe option with a removable silicone head. It even has a rechargeable version for the same price! You can purchase additional attachments for this one, but your Magic Wand attachments won’t fit.
4. Jimmyjane Iconic Wand for $74.99 form Shevibe. This multi-speed, waterproof rechargeable wand is a top pick of many. Again the Magic Wand attachments won’t fit on it though.
5. Mystic Wand Rechargeable for $95.95 from Good Vibrations. As I mention in my review of this wand, it’s less powerful than the Magic Wand Original, but that’s what makes a some penis-owners like it. It’s smaller and lighter, easier to hold and it’s not as overwhelming. It’s rechargeable, but if you run out of battery, you can use it plugged in the cord. It’s really sleek and pretty. No attachments.

6. Lovehoney Desire Wand for $99 from Lovehoney. Silicone, multi-speed and rechargeable. Not compatible with Magic Wand attachments.
7. Sola Egg Massager Wellness Set for $109.99 from Shevibe. I’ve reviewed the Passion Set version of this set, that just comes with different silicone attachments included. I think the Wellness Set might be a better option for penis-owners, since they can’t really benefit much with the Bunni and Omi attachments of the other one. What’s the Sola Egg Massager: it’s a super small, handheld cordless wand with removable silicone head. Magic Wand attachments fit great on it and it’s just fantastic for penises when combined with the Hummingbird attachment (see next category).
8. Magic Wand Rechargeable for $124.95 from Peepshowtoys. What can I say? The updated cordless version of the Magic Wand Rechargeable is pretty awesome. The battery holds up to 4.5 hrs, the head is silicone, it has several speeds to fit everybody’s needs. And all of the attachments meant for the Magic Wand Original fit on it.
9.Tantus Rumble for $129.99 from Tantus. The Tantus Rumble is the first vibrator created with every body in mind. It’s a completely gender neutral vibrator, that is super hygienic, has a silicone head, that can be removed and properly cleaned. And it’s feather light! Magic Wand Attachments don’t really work with it, but Tantus sells attachments that fit Rumble. Read my full review here.
10. Doxy Die Cast for $189.99 from Shevibe. This one is simply the best and strongest wand on earth. Find out why.

Magic Wand Attachments

Something great about Doxy and the Magic Wand Original or Rechargeable is that they can be turned into so many other things. Just place one of the following attachments and enjoy your wand in a completely new way. Again: lube is mandatory!

1. The Hummingbird Masturbator Attachment for $23.99 from Shevibe. This is a masturbation sleeve that goes on top of your wand. It’s the best thing since sliced bread. It can make even a flaccid penis ejaculate, and it’s great for folks with ED, but even if you have no problem maintaining a full erection, this attachment is going to give you the sensation of a masturbation sleeve and the strong wand vibrations at once. Keep in mind that this attachment is porous, so you might wanna replace it after a couple of months.
2. The Pop Tops Silicone G-Spotter for $40 from Good Vibrations. This g-spot attachment can be used anally for prostate play.
3. The Vixen Gee Whiz Attachment for $56.99 from Shevibe. Another super cool silicone g-spot attachment that can take anal play into the next level.

Prostate Toys

Prostate toys are a great way to discover your prostate. Prostate massage is not only pleasurable, but also helps prevent prostate cancer. Oh, and did I mention that you can enjoy hands-free orgasms lasting minutes with most of these?

Prostate and Anal Toys


1. Nexus Glide Prostate Massager for $35.99 from Shevibe
2. Aneros Eupho Classic for $50 from Good Vibrations
3. Lelo Bob Prostate Massager for $59 from Shevibe
4. Rude-Boy Intense Vibrating Prostate Massager by Rocks-Off for $59.99 from Shevibe
5. Tantus Prostate Play Vibrating for $71.40 from Tantus
6. Njoy Pfun Plug for 89.90 from Peepshowtoys
7. Njoy Fun Wand for $95 from Peepshowtoys

8. Black Pearl Rechargeable Vibrating Prostate Massager by Vibratex for $104.95 from Shevibe.
9. Njoy Pure Wand for $110 from Peepshowtoys. The bigger side of this toy has been helping women and have g-spot orgasms for years, but it’s as notorious for it’s smaller end that’s just fab for prostate massage. Because of its long handle men can experiment with it solo, as well as with a partner.
10. Nexus Revo 2 Rotating Vibrating Prostate Massager for $149.99 from Shevibe.This is a really high-quality multi-speed rechargeable prostate toy that has rave reviews.

Anal Toys

These suggestions are great for virtually everybody, since we all have anuses, regardless of our sex. These are not necessarily aimed to the prostate, but rather allow you to enjoy different kind of anal sensations and pleasure.


1. Tantus Ryder Butt Plug for $29 from Peepshowtoys. You can read my full review of this glorious intermediate to advanced butt plug here.

2. Fun Factory Flexi Felix Anal Beads for $34.99 from Shevibe

3. Fun Factory Bootie Butt Plug Small for $34.99 from Shevibe (or Medium for $39.99)

4. Tantus Ripple Small Plug for $37.54 from Tantus. I’ve reviewed the bigger sibling of this plug, Ripple Large.

5. Vibrating Progressive Beads for $58.00 from Tantus

6. Tantus Perfect Plug Vibrating Kit (2 plugs) for $68.00 from Tantus7. Doxy Don Anal Vibrator for $89.99 from Shevibe. The rumbliest toy I own! Read my complete review here.

8. Vixen Silicone Anal Beads Small for $89.99 from Shevibe (or Medium for $99.99)

9. Trio Plug by b-Vibe for $140 from Good Vibrations. This medium-sized plug has three powerful motors and can be controlled from 30 ft away with a remote control! You can read my review here.

10. Rimming Plug by b-Vibe (remote controlled) for $150 from Good Vibrations. This large plug has two motors: the one at the tip has vibrations, while the one in the neck of the plug rotates! Find out more about it here.

Pegging Kits, Harnesses and Dildos

Luckily anal play is becoming less and less of a taboo. A number of hetero couples are dipping their toes into pegging: when the female partner uses a strap on to penetrate the male anally. Pegging can be super fun, but remember to always start small, be patient, communicate with your partner and use a lot of lube. Here are a couple of suggestions for harnesses, strap-on kits or dildos that are good for pegging.

Another way you can use harnesses in your sex life is for double penetration. #10 on the list is a double harness: your partner can have their penis outside, and use a dildo as well to double penetrate you vaginally and anally at the same time. So fun! Or you can use a double ended toy, such as #8 Share Vibe, and enjoy g-spot stimulation while penetrating him anally.

1. Godemiche Ambit Dildo for $34.99 from Shevibe
2. Fuze Silicone Nova Dildo $39.99 from Shevibe
3. Fuze Silicone Velvet Dildo $44.99 from Shevibe
4. Tantus Slow Drive Dildo for $46.20 from Tantus
5. Tantus Sport Kit (dildo and harness) for $71.93 from Tantus
6. Spareparts Joque Harness for $114.95 from Peepshowtoys. This is a fabulous high-quality harness that’s going to meet your every need. Full review here.
7. Tantus Bend Over Beginner Kit (harness and two dildos) for $120.21 from Tantus
8. Fun Factory ShareVibe for $129.99 from Shevibe
9. Tantus Bend Over Intermediate Kit (harness and two dildos) for $133.30 from Tantus

10. Spareparts Deuce Harness for $134.95 from Peepshowtoys

Kegels for Penises

Because Kegels are for everybody! The Private Gym is the first (and only FDA-approved) kegel program for penis-owners. Ships worldwide. $99.99 from their website.

STI Testing

At home discrete STI testing. MyLab BOX $49 for HIV, $79 for Chlamydia and Gonorrhea

Books

And since great sex is not all about toys, but often communication or skills play a huge role, here are a couple of great books my some of my favorite authors.

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Njoy Fun Wand Review

Njoy Fun Wand Double Ended Stainless Steel Dildo

Njoy Fun Wand is an unfortunately overlooked and underestimated toy! It’s been overshadowed by it’s bigger and notorious siblings: the Njoy Pure Wand and the monstrous Njoy Eleven. Yet it has a huge potential to it and might be a better choice for a lot of people (or a good addition to your Njoy family portrait).

Brand

What is Njoy and why are you talking about it as if we’re supposed to know what it is? Good question! There aren’t stupid questions and usually I am one of the last people to get the memo. Njoy is an American brand that specializes in stainless steel dildos and butt plugs. They feature only a small number of toys. Their dildos are double ended, so they offer a good range of different sensations. They’re an investment in your sex life and in yourself because they’re going to last forever. They don’t have batteries or any electronics and they’re made of steel, so they’re never going to deform. Steel, really?! For a sex toy?! This might not sound sexy at first, but believe me: it is! Why is metal sexy? Because it’s perfectly sleek and smooth, it has no drag to it, it slides really pleasantly, even with a tiny bit of lube. And there’s something both luxurious and bad-ass about it.

What’s that Pure Wand you’re talking about? It’s another double ended dildo by Njoy that you might have probably seen in porn. It got famous for making women squirt. What about the Eleven? It’s a 3 lb 11″ long beast. Need I say more? So you see why the Fun Wand has it tough? It simply has a couple of over-achieving siblings to compete with.

Shape

dscn2726The Fun Wand is certainly the most versatile toy Njoy offers. Scratch that, it’s one of the most versatile toys EVER. It’s a double ended dildo that is great for g-spot stimulation, prostate play, and all adventures anal or vaginal. You can share it with your partner, and you can safely switch orifices. It’s S-shaped and it curves this way by design (opposite to the Pure Wand). Doug, the creator of Njoy, wanted it to curve downwards, so while the topping partner is pleasing the receiver, they can also worship them orally. How cool is that? And if you think about it, it’s impossible to be thrusting inside with the Pure Wand and give cunnilingus at the same time. Even using a clitoral vibe isn’t easy-peasy. The Fun allows all that!

One of the ends is smooth and only has a 1″ thick bulb at the end, which is really cool for working the g-spot. This end is as thick as the slimmer end of the Pure Wand and I know a number of people who prefer it. Not everyone is a size queen, you know. Sometimes bigger isn’t better. That same end is great for p-spot stimulation too, without being too big or intimidating in size, if your man isn’t super advanced with anal toys (1″ is as thick as the smallest of the Njoy butt plugs).

The other side is beady, progressing from 0,75″ to 1″ at its widest. Which makes the two smaller beads the smallest Njoy insertables. The small Pure Plug by Njoy has 1″ in girth, so if you or your honey are newbie-newbie to anal play, this is a perfect toy for you. The beads feel fantastic and the curve follows your anatomy perfectly.

What is great about this shape is that it makes it really easy to play with your own bum. The end that will be sticking out is like a little tail or a handle that you can use to thrust in and out or to work your own ass or prostate. Which can be orgasmic, even for women. It’s so easy that you can do it with one hand (reaching back and operating the toy by the handle) and still have your other hand free for using a clit or vag toy, or for stroking your penis.

Didn’t I say it was versatile?

Njoy Fun Wand Double Ended Stainless Steel Dildo

Material

It’s made of the same quality stainless steel found in Njoy products, and it will last you a lifetime. At the same time it’s literally half the weight of the Pure Wand: Fun is only 12 oz or 340 grams, while Pure is 1.5 lb or 680 grams. That is a lot for many people, and the Fun wand comes to the rescue. Even if you already own and love your Pure Wand, you might want to get a Fun Wand just for your travels.

The toy is a joy to maintain. It can be used with every kind of lube: water, silicone or oil-based and is entirely non-porous. So simple soap and water are enough to clean it but if you want to switch from the back to the front door, you will need to soak it in 10% bleach solution or boil it for 5-10 min.

Applications and Use

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As I said, it’s delicious for all bodies and can be used for a number of things. One of its amazing qualities is the way it holds temperature. It’s great for temperature play. Warming it up with hot water running from your sink will help with blood circulation and arousal. That turned out to be applicable to butt play too: until I tried Njoy products anally, I didn’t know how wonderful temperature play would feel in there. It will help you relax, open up, and enjoy it more. Even if you don’t necessarily warm it up, it will adjust better to the body temperature and feel really pleasant inside.

How does one play with the g-spot? Simply lubricate and insert the the single bulb end in the vagina. That side of the toy should be facing up: the toy should curve inside towards the belly or the front wall of the vagina. You can add extra pressure on the pubic mound by placing your palm and stimulating the g-spot from outside. By doing this you should be able to feel the head of the toy through the abdomen. But don’t get worried if you don’t, this might not be as pronounced for every woman. Ask your girl for feedback. The g-spot is typically 1.5-2″ from the vaginal opening, so you don’t need a very deep penetration in order to stimulate it. You will feel the toy securely locked or hooked behind the pubic bone. Try moving the toy just sliiightly in and out, or just move it around or “rock it. Try small movements with your wrist while holding the toy; you don’t need a whole lot more.

Last Words

This isn’t a toy for size queens or super advanced anal enthusiasts. It’s very newbie friendly and can be a really good first toy not just for one of the partners, but for both of them. It’s much less girthy but equally exciting as the Pure wand. If you are looking for a 3 in 1 toy (g-spot, p-spot, anal beads) or for something of the same quality as your bigger Njoys, but lighter and more portable, you found your match. It’s also much less of a clit or vulva-blocker. You can enjoy oral sex while being stimulated with the toy because it curves towards your bum, not towards your belly.

The Fun Wand comes in the same luxurious box as all other products from the line, and nobody can ever guess it’s a sex toy. It’s pure artwork. If my pictures don’t prove it, I don’t know what will. You can get it for a little less than $100 and with free shipping from Njoy Toys, Good Vibrations, SheVibe, Peepshowtoys, Lovehoney or Babeland [no free shipping]. In Canada: from Come as You Are; in the UK, Australia or internationally: from Lovehoney.

Njoy Pure wand was a generous present from NJOY as a sponsor gift of Sex Geek Summer Camp 2016.


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