Fun Factory Share Review

Updated on 12/13/16.

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Fun Factory Share is something that would make most people think “What on earth?!”. If you are not familiar with feeldoes, strapless strap-ons or double ended dildos that are meant to rest behind the pubic bone, the shape of the Share will seem like something out of this world. You are probably going to wonder what goes where and how it could even work. Let me assure you, it works perfectly.

The Fun Factory Share is a double ended dildo meant for strap-on sex for queer couples or moresomes, lesbian couples and hetero pairs who are advanced in pegging. The Share works if at least one of the people involved has a vagina, since the big bulbous end goes inside of it and rests comfortably against the g-spot, while the part that looks like a dick, can be used for penetration.

And I can tell you folks, to quote Tina Horn, it’s the best gender fuckery ever. Let me unpack this, because my queerness goes a long way back, so does my history with the Share. See, I’ve been aware of my bisexuality and queerness since I was roughly 15-years old. I’ve always been attracted to women and I’ve always loved girl sex. Yet, as I already mentioned in my SpareParts Joque harness review, I’ve never been particularly interested in using toys and especially phallic shaped ones in my girl time. For some reason sleeping with babes use to be about everything else that we can do together. It was about being as different as possible from hetero sex. It was about eating pussy and ferocious finger fucking. It was about sensation play and enjoying our bodies. It was not about dicks at all. In fact, I couldn’t imagine having a “dick” anywhere in the picture.

Then years later, after realizing that hetero sex doesn’t have to be hetero-normative at all, I diversified my lesbian sex too, added more toys, and finally came around using dildos and penetration. Again, double ended dildos did not strike me as an option right away. To me holding a dildo often does a much better job, it gives me better control of wielding the toy, I can be closer to my partner’s vulva and I can enjoy that front row seat. But it also ultimately helps me give them probably more pleasure, because my hands are better trained at this job than my hips. Especially given that I don’t actually own a cock.

Fun Factory ShareThen I went to The Sexual Health Expo in NY this September and the awesome Tina Horn pointed out that the Share was her favorite toy, because it allows the pressure and the impact from the thrusts to travel through both bodies. It essentially allows a vulva-owner who’s topping with it to feel extreme pleasure while fucking someone. Isn’t this a mind fuck? Fucking someone with a dick (when you don’t have one), getting to enjoy the view and all that power and responsibility of topping someone while simultaneously experiencing the feeling of being fucked. Okay, this sounded really fun from Tina’s mouth. And I could definitely trust Tina when it came to queer hanky-panky.

Then just two weeks after SHE, I went to another awesome sex event. This time the road took me to Atlanta and the second edition of the rad conference Sex Down South and the amazing Strap-on Sex class taught by Andre Shakti. The praise and love for the Share was… shared by Andre as well. Okay, two queer babes, both sex educators and performers, were talking up the Share, so maybe the sex god(esse)s were trying to tell me to get one finally. And after all, if it disappointed me as a couples toy, I could always use it for masturbation, as Shakti pointed out (but we’ll get to this a little further down).

Fun Factory Share

If you’ve already had any sort of strap-on sex with a regular dildo, you know that as fun as strap-on sex is, there isn’t much pleasure and actual physical stimulation for the topping party. Instead there are bruised pubic mounds from the base of the dildo pounding against your mons, while you’re thrusting in and out. These are both issues completely resolved by double ended dildos like the Share. It even provides a pleasant clitoral stimulation thanks to the mound in between the external phallus part and the bulb.

Another thing about strap-on sex and topping is… well, it’s fucking hard. I give penis-owners that. Thrusting and shooting from the hip is harder than it looks. So after a couple of strap-on experiences with a regular dildo, I was like… “Fuck that, if I am going to work this hard, I need more gratification from it.”

So the decision’s been made, I needed a Share in my life…

Fun Factory ShareThe Share is entirely silicone and  comes in several colors: Baby Rose, Purple, Black and Vanilla. What I didn’t anticipate was a couple of things. First, how heavy this thing was. I mean, it’s freaking H-E-A-V-Y. Which was a bit of a let down, given that I kind of wanted to use it without a strap on, and enjoy the view of having a purple penis between my legs. Second, the hinge was suuuper flexible. Which meant that with the weight of the external part of the dildo, it was dangling between my legs, instead of being and perky and facing up, like a proud erect cock. Okay, none of these were a deal breaker. After all, it’s mighty difficult and distracting to keep the thing in without a strap-on, mainly because of its weight, but also because of lube. See, the internal bulb is really big. Which means that I always use lube to pop it in. Which, as you can guess, makes the thing slip right out of my vagina. No biggie, I decided to just use a harness with it. Joque is one of the few harnesses that actually works with double ended dildos. Most conventional harnesses have a piece of leather or fabric that cannot be removed and only allow for regular dildos to be used with them. Luckily all Spareparts harnesses can accommodate double ended dildos, do if the Joque is not sexy enough for you, you can opt in for lingerie harnesses like Bella or Sasha instead.

Okay, this was a whole new story. With the strap-on it did look like the perfectly erect, g-spot curved, delicious dildo that I had signed up for. Now we were talking.

This dildo made me come faster and harder than the lady I was fucking with it. Securely snuggled in place by my Joque harness, this time its weight played a wonderful role. It transmitted every push, every thrust, every movement, and pressed against my g-spot. The amount of pressure and the feeling of being so full were just out of this world. It’s also so fun to have someone give the dildo a hand job or suck on it, since that was all transmitted in the form of a wonderful movement inside of me, which provided me with blissful stimulation. Not as much as using it for penetration did, but close enough.

A few weeks later I was lucky to experience bottoming with the Share. And, oh dear Lord, I can’t tell you how perfect this g-spot curve is. The coronal ridge of the phallus is simply one of the best shaped things I’ve had in my vagina. Being on the receiving end of this toy made me have an even greater appreciation for it. I almost squirted all over the place, but because we didn’t have any Liberator Throe, I asked my girl to slow down a bit.

Positions

Fun Factory ShareAs I already mentioned, using it with a strap-on allows you to use the Fun Factory Share in every imaginable position. But if you are ambitious and want to use it as a strapless strap-on, my recommendations would be the following. Make gravity work for you. If the partner topping is standing on their feed, or pretty much in any upright position, such as doggy style or missionary, this is probably going to fail you a great deal, because gravity is working against you. Instead, be a pillow queen for a change and lie on your back. Have the bottom go on top of you. Cowgirl is about one of the positions that works best with the strapless Share. Or sit on a chair and have them ride you.

Because of how extremely pleasurable the g-spot curve is, I would always recommend positions that have the curve facing the front wall of the vagina of the receiver (in the case of two vulva-owners using it). Anything that has you face each other would work: missionary, cowgirl, at the edge of the bed on your back with legs on their shoulders, while the top is standing upright next to the bed.

The Share and Solo Sex

Don’t be fooled that this double ended dildo is just a toy for couple play only. In fact its shape works perfectly as a solo toy. Masturbating with it can be quite fun, especially if you are a size queen or a g-spot stim maniac. What the Share does is turn into a dildo with a handle. You would put the bulbous part inside of you and masturbate by jerking off the cock. I mean, isn’t that even more of a gender fuckery?

Share in Different Sizes

Fun Factory Share, Share XL and Share Petite

While the Share is a great dildo, it’s still an average in size. Luckily there’s more that Fun Factory can offer. The Share XL is more girthy and has a lovely texture to it, if you are into that. The difference in size is not that huge, compared to the regular Share, but the grooves and ridges provide much more intense sensation. Some people hate texture, because it can chafe and be painful if you have more sensitive vaginal walls (or rectum). So it really depends on your own preferences, but unless you are sure about the extra ridges, I would stick to the regular Share. And there’s the Fun Factory Share Petite which has a tiny phallus for the receiver, making it perfect for beginner peggers or for people with vaginismus or ones that only want to take something as big as a finger. If you want to throw some vibration into the mix, there’s the ShareVibe by Fun Factory, which has a slightly different shape. Both the internal bulb is a bit different, but also the cock doesn’t have any coronal ridge. In other words there’s no head of the penis, which is better for pegging and anal play, but will provide less g-spot stimulation for vaginal play. I haven’t used the ShareVibe, but I’ve held it in stores and the hinge is much less flexible than the one on the Share dildo, so at least they’ve addressed that issue.

The Share and Pegging

As I already mentioned in the previous paragraph, if you are new to pegging, you should absolutely start with the Share Petite. The anal sphincters are much tighter and will provide more resistance, so I would definitely use any of the Shares with a strap-on, if I were to use it for pegging.

A Few Things to Consider

dscn3087There are a few things to keep in mind before committing to buying the Share. One is that it needs a lot of lube, especially on the part of the dildo that looks like a penis, if you are going to use it without a condom. The Fun Factory silicone is kind of known for having a lot of drag to it. Another thing is that you might need a lot of warm-up to be able to take the bulb, if you are topping with it. It’s kind of big and it’s not the kind of thing I will pop into my vagina without working my way to it. The entire toy is made of silicone, so it can be boiled and there isn’t anything that makes using it with a condom mandatory, since silicone is non-porous. But if you are in a setting where you can’t properly sanitize a dildo and you might want to share it with a partner you are not fluid bonded with, you will need to cover it with a condom. And here’s the challenge. The base of the Share gets wider, so a condom just doesn’t stay put on the cock. But I found that if I tuck the condom under the stretchy O-ring of my SpareParts harness, it does stay in place. And I’ve mentioned this before, but it cannot emphasize this enough – the hinge is really flexible, so without the harness, the dong is going to dangle between your legs.

In a nutshell

Even with these few things to keep in mind, I still think that the Fun Factory Share is one of the best double ended dildos on the market and I absolutely love using it for girl sex and sometimes even for masturbation.

 You can get it for $105.99 from Peepshowtoys.

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Joque SpareParts Harness Review

Joque SpareParts Harness Review

I will have to start this review with a confession. I’ve been sleeping with women for 10+ years and up until a few weeks ago I’ve never used a strap-on. I just have never felt the “need” to. Dicks were definitely not missed during my girl time. I used to rarely even use any toys during my lesbian sex. All we wanted were our bodies, almost as if to prove that we’re enough and that we can get the job done on our own terms.

But people grow and develop, and surprisingly to me, even I grew-up. And realized that steering clear from any kind of sex or pleasure, is staying in a box. To me sex represents liberation and being free. So if I were in fact, bisexual, pansexual, pleasure-driven, sex-positive woman, why run away from something that even remotely represented heteronormative sex?  What I realized is that incorporating a phallus doesn’t make me less of a feminist, less of a lesbian, or less of who I am. Isn’t girl sex all about that? It can be anything you want it to be. So many things ARE sex, and sometimes just humping someone’s leg through their clothes can be sex. So throw whatever you want in the mix and redefine what you call sex.

With that introduction in mind, my curiosity about strap-on sex grew bigger and bigger. I already owned an impressive collection of Tantus dildos that are all strap-on compatible. And clearly I’ve heard legends about the SpareParts harnesses. So not surprisingly, this is the first harness I picked to review.

Brief intro to harnesses

A harness is the garment that holds the dildo. A number of brands will sell you both in one package, and the complete package is usually called strap-on. The reason some companies sell these together, is that depending on the kind of harness one is using, the harness might not fit most dildo sizes.  How most harnesses work is by using O-rings. The ring will fit a certain girth, and if you want to change dildos mid-session, you have to unclip the O-ring, change it to a size that fits, and then put the new dildo and clip back on the ring. If it sounds like a pain, that’s because it IS.

And if we were to separate harnesses into two big categories, those would be: ones that are adjustable and you don’t have to worry that much about fitting, because they can be tightened or loosened up. And there are the ones that look like underwear, briefs or undies: like the Bella, Sasha, or the Tomboi from SpareParts. For those you need to make sure that you’re fitted correctly. If it’s too tight it will give you a muffin top and it will be difficult to move around, let alone fuck someone, and if it’s too loose, it’s not going to give you enough support.

About SpareParts

SpareParts specialize in high-quality super versatile harnesses. Most of their models hold patents, and they’ve received a number of awards. SpareParts is absolutely the best brand when it comes to non-leather or non faux-leather harnesses. Most of their things are made by materials such as spandex, have a number of adjustable parts and are made with comfort, convenience and durability in mind. They are definitely expensive, compared to a number of other brands and products, but they will last you years of fuss-free and hassle-free strap-on sex.

Their packaging looks more like high-end lingerie, and this certainly adds to the whole experience.

About Joque

Joque by SpareParts is by far the most notorious harness ever made. It’s loved by many, praised by sex bloggers, recommended by sex educators and hugely used by members of different lifestyles. If you are looking for one harness to end all harnesses, look no further, Joque found you.

Joque only comes in two sizes, because each of them can fit waist sizes ranging from 20”-50” or 35”-65”. Everything on it is customizable: the leg straps, the waist straps. If you are anything like me and your weight fluctuates a lot, investing your money in Joque is probably the smartest thing.  It’s a two-strap jokey style harness. You can wear your sexy g-string underneath and tease your partner with your hot bootie, or not leave things to imagination and go commando. Joque is breathable, washable and is entirely hygienic, it can be shared with partners (if washed between uses), and that’s not going to shorten its life, because it’s made of highly durable materials. It comes in several colors: black, white, purple, red and blue.

Features

It has a stretchy O-ring that can accommodate dildos of different sizes. All you will need your dildo to have is a flared base. Joque has two little pockets above and below the O-ring, in which you can fit small vibrators. Changing dildos is really easy, the waist of the harness is Velcro, you just loosen it up, take dildo 1 out and put dildo 2 in. It’s simple as that. You don’t have to worry about wearing it underneath your clothes. As I said, it’s super comfortable and even if you’re going out and just want to wear it underneath your jeans or skirt, it’s barely noticeable.

Applications

Joque is a great harness for a number of scenarios. It can be used for pegging (that’s when a woman fucks a man in the ass with strap-on), because it can accommodate even smaller dildos, it’s great for girl sex, it can also be used with a double-ended dildo, such as The Share Double by Fun Factory, because it’s crotchless and has one’s vulva exposed and easily playable with.  The last thing makes it perfect for FMF or FFF threesomes. While one of the girls is fucking the other with the strap-on, she can simultaneously receive penetration or other genital play from the guy (or a third woman with a strap-on).

Tips for more enjoyable topping with Joque

Joque SpareParts Harness ReviewThe top in strap-on sex is the one wearing the strap on and the one penetrating.  Overall people seem to think that there isn’t much one in this position can to do receive pleasure. I am not talking just purely the pleasure of having sex and giving someone else joy. But let’s face it, it’s a lot of work, and there’s not much happening in the top’s nether regions.

So what can be done to fix that? One thing that I love is wearing Kegel balls while using a strap-on. The motions will move the balls around, will cause you to clench around them, and that alone can make you cum. Try wearing a vibrating egg. Or putting a little vibe in the pouch. People seem to love their We-Vibe Tango for that job, but I honestly love my Eva by Dame.  Another trick for less pain from the base of the dick pressing against your mons: get a dildo with a soft base meant for strap-on play, such as the Royale line by Vixen.  Or buy one of these little pillows for underneath the base of the dildo.

In conclusion

Joque turned out to be everything I’ve imagined it would be. It’s not just a lot of talk and fuss. It sells for $114.95 at Peepshowtoys and you can get 10% off with code: WETLANDIA. It’s absolutely worth every dime. If you can’t afford it even at this price, I would say: save your money, wait for some Black Friday or Christmas Sales, to get Joque even a bit more discounted, and save yourself the whole trouble of wasting money on disappointing harnesses. And put your Joque (and your Njoy toys) in the prenup. You will want to take these, and they will last you that long.

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Eva by Dame Products

Eva by Dame Products

In the spirit of full disclosure, I have to admit this. When I first saw Eva online I laughed my ass off. I thought it was ridiculous, silly and I couldn’t see how it could possibly work. To be true, that happened at a time when I was hugely disappointed in couples’ toys and supposedly hands-free gadgets and their promise of hands-free orgasms. That also occurred at a moment when I knew nothing about the company, nor the research behind Eva.

I had to stand corrected pretty quickly though. Great stores that I support and respect started storing it, and positive reviews from some of my favorite bloggers were popping up. I couldn’t pretend that Eva was laughable and wave it off. It had a stronger and stronger presence in the sex toy world.

Dame Products

One of the first things that changed my opinion about Eva was the company behind it (Short version: Alex and Janet are awesome!) Dame Products is a women-owned business that started with a simple idea. They wanted to solve one problem that many products had tried to before: how to make a vibrator that was unobtrusive, that could be used during sex (not necessarily just penis in vagina intercourse), that fitted well, didn’t get in the way, and complemented sex, instead of steal the thunder. Eva was not meant to replace your partner, it was meant to be used with your partner.

What inspired them was the simple fact that studies show that at least 70% of women don’t have orgasm during intercourse. That doesn’t mean that these women are broken or incapable of experiencing orgasm altogether. Penetration and the stimulation that occurs during intercourse are not what makes women come. For one, penetrative sex doesn’t sufficiently stimulate the clitoris, and the vagina itself has very few nerve endings. The clitoris, on the other hand, has 8,000!

The first generation of the vibrator was thoroughly tested and reviewed by a number of couples who partook in the study and its development. Eva was successfully crowdfunded (it actually raised 1151% of the goal of the campaign). You can find out more about the story behind Eva in this video.

How does it work?

I know that’s the first question that comes to your mind when you see Eva. The vibrator itself is the size of a pebble: the main body of the vibe is roughly 1.3″ by 1.7″. It’s virtually feather light. The little arms or wings of the vibrator are a bit flexible: allowing it to fit a wider range of bodies and sizes. The way you “wear” it is by placing the wings between your inner labia and your outer labia. Dame products have a really comprehensive fitting guide.

The body of the vibrator is placed over the glans of your clitoris, but the little arms of Eva actually carry the vibration too, and that stimulates better the internal parts of your clitoris. At the same time the body of the vibrator, as well as the arms, are completely out of the way of the vaginal opening, so intercourse can happen without removing the vibrator, or having to worry about it getting in the way.

The specifications

Eva by Dame ProductsEva is a rechargeable vibrator that is 100% silicone and it’s entirely body-safe. It comes in two colors, lavender and aqua. The material is matte and very soft. It’s small and light, which makes it as easy to carry around as a bullet vibrator is, and it even comes with a little black storage bag. The toy has three speeds, the lightest one is really non-intimidating and I believe can be used even by people who don’t like direct clitoral vibration and are quite sensitive. Eva actually provides a really broad and pleasant stimulation. If I have to describe it, it would be: a really good balance between pinpoint vibration and broad vibration. The highest speed is actually surprisingly powerful. It has one big button that turns it on and changes the speeds. Which means that you have to cycle through the settings in order to go back to a lower setting, but luckily, Eva has only three modes, so it’s not too much work. I’d rather have one big button that works, even if I have to cycle through them, than have a few tiny buttons that I keep missing or pressing something by mistake. The control button is also not too sensitive, so even in the weirdest sex positions, you don’t end up pressing it by chance and accidentally changing to a different setting. Eva is also shower-proof: you can wash it gently, but you cannot submerge it in water (so don’t take it to the bath tub).

It holds its charge for 60 min on the highest setting and 5 hrs on its lowest. The first time you charge it, you have to puncture the silicone. This feels really wrong and weird, but since at least the angle in which you need to do it is very straightforward, it wasn’t as stressful of an experience as I had with other toys I had to… penetrate with the charger. It also comes with the wall power adapter, not just the USB cable, and this can be handy. It also makes it easy to charge (and take with you) if you’re traveling abroad, because you can charge it either via USB, or just get a wall adapter for the country you will be traveling to.

What can you use it for

Eva by Dame Products

Even though it’s marketed as a couples’ vibrator and it’s great as such, it can be used for all sorts of partnered or solo play. Clearly, you can wear it and have intercourse with it, but it can stay in place and enhance your experience while you give oral sex or a hand job, or while you’re being fingered. It’s great for girl on girl time, because the other partner can grind on it and it can actually work as a great lesbian couples’ toy. If you have a penis-owner as a partner, there are a couple of ways you can both have pleasure without any penetration whatsoever. If your partner’s cock likes vibration, he can place his dick on Eva, while you’re wearing it. Or he can grind his balls on Eva, while receiving a hand job or jerking himself off.

It’s also fantastic for strap-on sex. To be clear, Eva is not the toy you use with the harness. You put the dildo you want to use, but the partner topping with the harness wears Eva as well. And that’s super awesome for pegging or girl on girl strap-on sex, because unless one is using a double ended dildo (like Fun Factory Share), the top usually doesn’t get to feel much or anything at all (besides clearly the joy of bringing pleasure to someone). I am actually really proud of myself for remembering to use it while topping a girl this weekend. It works great with a harness like the Joque by Spareparts, which has a little pocket and holds Eva in place even better. Any other panties-like harnesses, such as Bella or the Tomboi would do the job equally well.

Eva by Dame ProductsAnd let’s not underestimate it as a great toy for masturbation. I discovered several ways in which Eva gets the job done. One is if I use my hands to press it and wiggle it a little bit, for those who like pressing a vibrator against their clitoris. A hands-free way is humping a pillow or the edge of the mattress. The latter is particularly pleasant when I was wearing Kegel balls as well, or a vibrating egg. A hands-free orgasm was absolutely possible and actually easy to achieve. Eva is also of great help if you want to use fewer hands. For instance, you like clitoral stimulation alongside thrusting with a vaginal vibrator or a dildo. For once I don’t have to use both hands! Eva stays put and you can alternate your hands for using the insertable. That’s a godsend to me, because my hands and arms get tired easily and I tend to prefer longer solo sessions.

The other way I completely adore using Eva is wearing it in my panties, walking around, doing chores, cooking dinner, or doing my Kegels meanwhile. That usually gets me really hot and “ready” for intercourse. On those days when time is really limited (life, job, kids, the dishes, you know) and I just want to jump in bed and have a quickie, but at the same time, I want to be sufficiently aroused before going at it.

Experiences

DSCN9926 - Copy.JPGAs Dame Products recommends, it’s better to try out and experiment with Eva a couple of times alone before introducing it to a partner. When you do, one thing you need to keep in mind is lubrication. In order to stay in, Eva needs your labia to be dry, because friction actually keeps it in place. So you need to be careful with the lube. Either put it inside of your vagina with a lube shooter, use your fingers to get the lube inside, or just lube up the cock or the dildo, instead of placing the lube on your vulva and around your vaginal opening.

Try out different positions. I feel that the positions that worked the best for me were ones in which I had a really close body contact with my partner and our bodies were pressed against each other the most, because that gave Eva most support. In face to face positions the thrusts were rubbing and wiggling it; it felt really good. Same thing applies for strap-on sex. I actually came roughly at the same time the girl I was topping did: the faster I was thrusting, the more Eva was rubbing on my clit. I couldn’t have wished for more.

Things to consider

Eva is a bit loud on the highest setting, to the extent that it can be distracting. Try listening to some music. Overall having a sexy time playlist is always a good idea, but if it can noise out the sounds from the vibrator, that’s even better. Eva can also slip out if lube leaks out of your vagina, or if you’re having a really passionate session with very aggressive and fast thrusting. One tip to always keep it in place is a pair of hot crotchless panties.

Last words

Eva is easily my favorite couples’ toy at this point. Especially at the price-point of $105, which is roughly half the price of the We-Vibe 4 Plus or Sync. It has everything I expect from a toy these days: rechargeable, body-safe, washable. It’s so far #1 in my chart of travel-friendly toys given its size and weight.

You can purchase Eva from Dame Products with a 1-year warranty and free shipping.

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Eva by Dame Products

Disclaimer: Eva was generously provided to me by Dame Products in exchange for my honest review. My opinions and thoughts in this post reflect my experience with the product and are not altered in any way. I am using affiliate links in this post, which help me support this blog. By buying through them you’re giving me the opportunity to keep up the good work.


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